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Wives submit
yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is
the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is
the Savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so
let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. |
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Marriage Help Resources Healing and Well Being Healing Ebook - Living To Your Full Potential Godly Foundation Ebook - How To Be Free and Achieve True Marital Happiness What
Is Submission? Understanding
Submission Are You a Feminist Wife? 1. Career
Woman or Help-Meet Wife? Understanding Forgiveness 1. Forgive
Your Husband E-book-Forgiveness
in Marriage Understanding Principled 1. What Love Means 2. The Rock of Love For Marriage 3. Healing Begins With Our Attitude 4. Loving Your Husband With Wisdom Praying For Your Husband 1. The
Man Who Wouldn't Lead Productive Communication and Expression 1. Being Emotionally There 2. A Good Communicator Listens! 3. A Good Communicator/Good Listener Sex and Intimacy 1. Can a Bad Attitude Encumber Sex? 2. The Intimately Satisfied Marriage 3. The Sexually Satisfied Marriage Stuff For Couples Do To Together Healing After Adultery |
 What
is submission? Voluntarily giving up selfishness and rebelliousness and
becoming all of what you can be so you will be independent enough to let
go and submit to your husband. It's really that simple. It is so ironic,
but it is those women who submit to their husbands freely and lovingly
that are the most independent minded! Why is that? Because these married
women are not dependent upon things or people to make them feel good about
who they are!Married women who get up every morning to go to work aren’t independent—they are working for someone else! They are giving their talents and abilities to another institution instead of to their own marriage and family—to me that is dependence! I hope I am not offending
anyone; it is not my aim to offend anyone, but to merely offer biblical
advice and encouragement. I’m only trying to express a controversial
subject that has been very distorted in society in the best way that I
know how—from personal experience and God’s Word! Some Christian women are
confused about what true independence is. Real independence for the
Christian, married or not, is dependence on God. For the Christian, needs
and wants are not on superficial objects, relationships, money, power,
greed, or pride, etc; but on serving the Lord and gaining more knowledge
and wisdom in the Lord. When you have the knowledge and
wisdom to realize your blessings, and to see them ripen, and to know how
blessed you are to be living as a Child (daughter) of God rather than
living for the world, then you will understand what true independence is.
And you will understand the whole subject of headship
and submission with a totally different perspective. Fear of the
Lord is the beginning of wisdom. (Psalms 111:10) Six little words sum it up! Put God First in your Life! Many couples think they have fallen out of love with their spouse. This causes insincerity and dissimulation in their behaviors, such as adultery and lust addictions because when they believe something to be true in their mind their actions soon follow their thinking. The fact is they have not fallen out of love with their spouse, they were never in love to begin with! Love is not that superficial. Love is not something that is or it isn't and that's because love is a choice and love is an action. You make love happen by what you do! Find out more about "how to love your husband" hereDisrespect Disrespect between couples is more prevalent than you would think. It is easy to allow the culture of society to define the role of women in marriage but when a wife believes that marriage is made for her happiness and that a man should cater to that happiness no matter what, she gets disappointed and it causes disrespect and contempt for the man she married. The main reason for this is because couples are not applying the design that God built especially for marriage, but rather the growing and evolving design of society. What needs to be done here is to stop looking out into the world for the answers your marriage needs and start looking towards God - He will provide couples with everything they need to have an abundant and fruitful marriage. Go back and read through the articles on Godly Foundation again. Submission This is an issue that needs careful consideration between husband and the wife together. It is not something that a wife can do without first the husband adhering to his position in the marriage in the proper manner. The husband first manages his headship position through the principles of God and then his wife can submit to that headship. But if there is no headship to begin with, she will have a difficult time submitting. What can you do? The first thing is to understand what role and position each has in the marriage and then work off that foundation. The wife can learn more about what her role and position is in the marriage by reading through some of the articles I have prepared on submission, answering the questions and using them as a guide for her own marriage. Forgiveness Forgiving others who have hurt us is a difficult thing to do, but if we want our marriage back on track, forgiveness is paramount to its restoration. It's all about the resentment we hold inside and our unwillingness to forgive. If we set back and take a hard long look at "why" we are unable to forgive, we'll see that our unforgiveness is hurting ourselves just as much as the person who hurt us. So it goes without saying, that for our own inner healing to take place we have to forgive! It's really that simple. We can either stay all bottled up in our frustrations or we can forgive - its up to you! Read the forgiveness ebooks - study the biblical references - it is God's will for our lives that we forgive, even if we don't want to. Bossy and Controlling Believe me, I used to be this way! But ironically I didn't even realize it. As a matter of fact I used to think that my husband was controlling and bossy but now when I look back at my behavior I see that I was trying to control my husband out of my own fear and resentment. Fear has a way of making us behave in ways that is not conducive to marriage or any relationship for that matter. But did you know that fear is of the devil. It's true! Now, whenever I feel the need to control my husband, change my husband, or become bossy and treat him like one of the kids, I stop and realize that I am merely acting on my own fears and insecurities. Emotions Emotions and feelings are ok to have, don't get me wrong, but when we use are feelings to abuse manipulate, or otherwise to get our way with, we are allowing those emotions to control our life and marriage in a negative way. This is why the great principle of love that Jesus taught us is the way to go when it comes to handling our marital issues and disagreements. I have found, that even when you don't want to, but you do the right thing anyway, we feel better about it in the end. And I think that is how God blesses us and our marriage. He blesses us with His comfort and gives us peace of mind. We can love our husbands with wisdom and feel good about our decisions because those decisions actually come from the Holy Spirit of Jesus Christ within us - it is our conscience telling us to do what is right. Praying Why is it that we pray only when WE WANT OR NEED something? Maybe you don't do that, but many times I find myself doing that. We should pray for others because God already knows what we need. Yes, He knows what others need too, but God wants us to care about other people's lives too, especially the person we married. Why should we pray for our spouse? Because they need prayer, they need God's love, and they need your love, just as much as you need prayer and God's love. This is what's important for your marriage. Principled Love vs. Feelings of Love Bring God’s principles into your marriage and learn how to love according to principled acts of love rather than the need to “feel” good with every situation. In other words, LOVE because you are committed to the relationship no matter what, but don’t love because you are needing to be loved back for a feeling. Don’t let marital difficulties hinder how you will love. What does love mean? Faith Without faith we could not heal ourselves or restore marriage and that's because we need to have complete faith and trust in God to LET HIM GUIDE US in the right direction for our marriage! For instance, my faith in God tells me to stay away from temptation and to do what is right for my marriage. But if I had faith in myself I would believe that I could actually be around tempting situations and people and remain free from its grip. But that's not true at all. My faith in God guides my life and what I do with it - it has nothing to do with what I can or cannot do. Without faith in God and believing that His way is the right way, I would start to disrespect my husband and lead my life further away from God. We need God guiding us! And that is the truth! |
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