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Marriage Help Resources Do It Yourself Marriage Counseling Who Are You Accountable To? Healing and Well Being Healing Ebook - Living To Your Full Potential Godly Foundation Ebook - How To Be Free and Achieve True Marital Happiness What
Is Submission? NEW*Understanding
Submission Understanding Forgiveness E-book-Forgiveness
in Marriage Understanding Principled Praying For Your Husband Productive Communication and Expression Sex and Intimacy Stuff For Couples Do To Together Healing After Adultery |
Step 1 - Declaration of
Marriage Status Taking Care of You. Did you know that by taking care of YOU is what will restore your marriage? The Declaration of Marriage Status is the FOUNDATION of which everything else you do is supported by. By filling out the declaration of marital status you will have the foundation to support your marriage on. Who are you? Who are you accountable to? No one? God? Who are you? If declaring yourself as a child of God is not something you would like to do then you have come to the wrong marriage help website. Once you finish this exercise you can move on to step 2 and click the "marriage help resources" in the left column. Please do not proceed to step 2 until you have printed out and answered the Declaration of Marriage Status form first. The declaration of marriage status is the foundation from which everything else flows. Husbands and wives should both fill out the declaration of marital status form. Take your time when filling out this form and be honest with yourself. Step 2 - Under each heading on the left is four articles that I have diligently selected especially for that subject of marriage.. At the end of each article I have prepared a series of questions for you to ponder and answer and then put into practice. Like anything else, if we do something on a consistent basis, it becomes a habit. We should have good habits that we apply into our life and marriage.Remember who you are--you may have to refer back to your foundational footing on the Declaration of Marital Status to keep you focused on what is good and right for your self and your marriage. These materials are of the utmost importance, for they give you the foundation to base your actions upon in the marriage. Without a firm footing to base your actions upon, the marriage will inevitably fail or at least, be miserable. Don't you want to be happy? That's what I thought. Print out any of the materials and then answer the questions, share with your wife if you wish and then compare notes. You will be pleasantly surprised to see that you both want the same things for your marriage. It is best when couples work together and do these exercises together. Common Marriage Issues That Are Detrimental To Marriage and What you can do. Disrespect Disrespect between couples is more prevalent than you would think. It is easy to allow the culture of society to define the role of women in marriage but when a wife believes that marriage is made for her happiness and that a man should cater to that happiness no matter what, she gets disappointed and it causes disrespect and contempt for the man she married. The main reason for this is because couples are not applying the design that God built especially for marriage, but rather the growing and evolving design of society. What needs to be done here is to stop looking out into the world for the answers your marriage needs and start looking towards God - He will provide couples with everything they need to have an abundant and fruitful marriage. Go back and read through the articles on Godly Foundation again. Submission This is an issue that needs careful consideration between husband and the wife together. It is not something that a wife can do without first the husband adhering to his position in the marriage in the proper manner. The husband first manages his headship position through the principles of God and then his wife can submit to that headship. But if there is no headship to begin with, she will have a difficult time submitting. What can you do? The first thing is to understand what role and position each has in the marriage and then work off that foundation. The wife can learn more about what her role and position is in the marriage by reading through some of the articles I have prepared on submission, answering the questions and using them as a guide for her own marriage. Forgiveness Forgiving others who have hurt us is a difficult thing to do, but if we want our marriage back on track, forgiveness is paramount to its restoration. It's all about the resentment we hold inside and our unwillingness to forgive. If we set back and take a hard long look at "why" we are unable to forgive, we'll see that our unforgiveness is hurting ourselves just as much as the person who hurt us. So it goes without saying, that for our own inner healing to take place we have to forgive! It's really that simple. We can either stay all bottled up in our frustrations or we can forgive - its up to you! Read the forgiveness ebooks - study the biblical references - it is God's will for our lives that we forgive, even if we don't want to. Control Believe me, I used to be this way! But ironically I didn't even realize it. As a matter of fact I used to think that my husband was controlling and bossy but now when I look back at my behavior I see that I was trying to control my husband out of my own fear and resentment. Fear has a way of making us behave in ways that is not conducive to marriage or any relationship for that matter. But did you know that fear is of the devil. It's true! Now, whenever I feel the need to control my husband, change my husband, or become bossy and treat him like one of the kids, I stop and realize that I am not 'out of control' but merely acting on my own fears and insecurities. Emotions Emotions and feelings are ok to have, don't get me wrong, but when we use are feelings to abuse manipulate, or otherwise to get our way with, we are allowing those emotions to control our life and marriage in a negative way. This is why the great principle of love that Jesus taught us is the way to go when it comes to handling our marital issues and disagreements. I have found, that even when you don't want to, but you do the right thing anyway, we feel better about it in the end. And I think that is how God blesses us and our marriage. He blesses us with His comfort and gives us peace of mind. We can love our husbands with wisdom and feel good about our decisions because those decisions actually come from the Holy Spirit of Jesus Christ within us - it is our conscience telling us to do what is right. Praying Why is it that we pray only when WE WANT OR NEED something? Maybe you don't do that, but many times I find myself doing that. We should pray for others because God already knows what we need. Yes, He knows what others need too, but God wants us to care about other people's lives too, especially the person we married. Why should we pray for our spouse? Because they need prayer, they need God's love, and they need your love, just as much as you need prayer and God's love. This is what's important for your marriage. Principled Love vs. Feelings of Love Bring God’s principles into your marriage and learn how to love according to principled acts of love rather than the need to “feel” good with every situation. In other words, LOVE because you are committed to the relationship no matter what, but don’t love because you are needing to be loved back for a feeling. Don’t let marital difficulties hinder how you will love. What does love mean? Faith Without faith we could not heal ourselves or restore marriage and that's because we need to have complete faith and trust in God to LET HIM GUIDE US in the right direction for our marriage! For instance, my faith in God tells me to stay away from temptation and to do what is right for my marriage. But if I had faith in myself I would believe that I could actually be around tempting situations and people and remain free from its grip. But that's not true at all. My faith in God guides my life and what I do with it - it has nothing to do with what I can or cannot do. Without faith in God and believing that His way is the right way, I would start to disrespect my husband and lead my life further away from God. We need God guiding us! And that is the truth! |
Buy Are you or have you ever gone through any of these issues in marriage?
Those questions and more are addressed in detail in Love The
Man You Married book Love the Man You Married' is an impressive piece of work. It touches on issues such as 'How to be Happy in Your Marriage', 'Healing Marriage after Adultery', and 'Communicating Effectively with Your Husband'. Angie uses Bible scriptures to try to examine issues and she even shows how she has helped people mend their broken marriages. This is the Ultimate guide for any Christian family. I highly recommend this book. It is much needed in today's society and it is a worthwhile investment that will change your outlook on life and marriage. -- N. Brek
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