Marriage: Change of Attitude = Change
Copyright © 2007
How can we concentrate more on the blessings of our
marriage? How can we discover the goodness in the person we married? By
focusing on what brings contentment and happiness. For
instance, just a simple switch in attitude can make a person have more
compassion for the person they married. We have to stop believing in the
lies we hear.
The lies give us an attitude about our marriage and the person we
The world likes to feed gullible people things that
arenít true. Some people are susceptible to these untruths because
they want to believe them. I wanted to believe them
and I did believe them. We want answers to our marriage problems and
weíll practically listen to anyone who has something to say that we
want to hear. Anything that will provide the validation we need for our
own rotten actions. Over time, believing in the lies of the world builds
an unhealthy attitude in us. I receive emails from
women who actually believe that their husband committed adultery because
of something they did or didnít do. This is a lie
generated from the world. It is incorrect.
Unhealthy attitudes keep us stuck and trapped in
our sins. Our sins are whatever we live for and whatever is controlling
us. Unhealthy attitudes steer us away from Godís love and into the
follies and sinfulness of the world. But if we are following Jesus than
we are truly free from the lies of the world. Godís children do not
search for their answers from the world. That is what those who have no
understanding do. They believe in the lies of the world and that is why
they are often referred to as blind.
Wisdom comes from God because God is wisdom.
And God gives you wisdom!
About thirteen years ago I was blind in my
marriage. My husband and I had some daily struggles and then we had some
real treacherous issues that kept me from seeking out God for my
personal issues. I didnít think my drinking was a personal issue
because I blamed my husband for my drinking, so it was his problem not
mine. We separated several times just because things were not going the
way ďIĒ wanted. I told myself more lies. The biggest lie I was told
from the world and one that I believed for many years was that I was not
happy because of the man I married. Could a different man make me happy?
I donít think so! Happiness comes from within. I made myself unhappy
by believing in the lies.
The root of my marriage problems was not alcohol,
was not selfishness, and was not my negative emotions. It was that I did
not know God. That is probably the root of your marriage problems too.
When we donít have any real foundation to base our marital problems on
we are like chickens running around with our head cut off. We donít
really know what we are doing. We think we do, but we donít. As long
as we keep believing in the lies we will continue to run amok, basing
our marriage upon our own understanding and weíll remain unhappy and
unsatisfied with the person we married.
I can honestly say with out a doubt in my mind,
that it doesnít have to be like this. Come all of you who are heavy
laden with burdens. Strip them off your back and ask God to come into
your life and start living for the Light of the World. Jesus Christ can
change your attitude like He did mine. Change of Attitude = Change of
Heart. This is the only way we can start focusing on the goodness of the
person we married and start living for our marriage in the way that God
So how can we determine what is and isnít truth?
A voice came from the cloud, saying, ďThis is my
Son, whom I have chosen; listen to him. (Luke 9:35 NIV)
This is the truth.
1. Where does an unhealthy attitude come
2. What negative behaviors or sins are controlling
your attitude and marriage now?
3. What must you do to let go of the slavery to sin
and begin to live free of negativity in your life and marriage?
4. Where does happiness come from?
5. How can you find happiness without it disrupting
someone else's life to get it?
6. Who are you?
A. Where did you come from?
B. Are you living your life from the SOURCE of
"who you are" and "where you came from?
C. Why or why not?
7. What is the root cause of your marriage
problems? (It's not really the issue at hand like you thought, is it?)
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