Is Important For Marriage?
Have you taken the time to be there for your
spouse? Some of you reading this may be thinking, ďHe hasnít taken
the time to be a husband, why should I put in any special effort?Ē
ďShe has rejected me for two weeks. Iím not going to do
anything extra around the house for her.Ē But we do have to put in
special effort if we truly want to be there for each other.
Marriage is certainly not about keeping score. It is about
giving of ourselves freely whenever we have the chance to do so.
A wife and mother who works out of the home all
day, and then comes home, cooks, cleans, and tends to the children,
isnít going to have much time for her husband, thatís for sure. So
what can she do? A good starting point is for
couples to decide together where their priorities lie. What is
How is your marriage doing in the pleasure
department? Do you have the time and energy to make love to each
other, or is it too late and youíre tired? What about the intimacy
department? Do you and your spouse ever have the time to talk about
your feelings and have deep conversations with one another? Do you
ever take walks together, or go on a date to the movies or to dinner?
Marriage needs these things.
What about your health? Are you eating wholesome
home-cooked meals, staying energized throughout the day, or are you
eating too much fast foods and boxed foods and you feel tired and worn
out by mid-day? Eating home-cooked wholesome meals
everyday is far better for your health and energy levels than anything
What about your spiritual health? Do you have
time for bible study and, or prayer together? Even if one spouse is
not available for devotions or bible study, do you still devote your
own time to prayer and spiritual study? Spiritual time together is
very important in marriage.
Do you have children? What about them? Do the
younger children go to an expensive daycare during the day? Do your
children spend needless time home alone after school? Are they staying
out of trouble, or are they hanging out with their friends doing who
knows what? Our children need us.
If couples have forsaken the blessings of
marriage and family over a wife and mother working just so they can
make more money, then maybe it is time to recheck and rethink a few
priorities and see what is important. Having a happy and satisfied
marriage is important, is it not? Having good health, spiritually and
physically is very important as well. And obviously the health and
welfare of our children is important too.
So what makes money such a high priority in our
lives? Is it fear of not having anything? Is it because most
Americanís are in debt and they have to work even harder to pay off
that debt? Are we managing our marriage properly,
or just managing the money we earn so we can have more stuff? Couples
work, labor and toil all day long and then donít have time for each
other. The sad thing is, they also do not have time for God. What is
Questions for Couples
1. What is important to you in your marriage?
2. Is God at the top of your priority list or is it something else?
3. When was the last time you had bible study and or prayer with your spouse?
4. Name five things that are the most important to you and your marriage.
5. Do you feel that God has blessed you in your marriage? Why or why not? Explain
Make God at the top of your priority list today and then base your marriage from that!