5 Reasons Why Affairs Donít Work
by Angie Lewis
What is the purpose for having an affair? Most
people would say it is because they like or love the other person they
are having the affair with. Think about this. At one time in your life,
you also loved the person you married, right? What happened? Some people
have affairs and trysts because they allow their negative emotions to
control them. Simply put, they listen to their feelings. Sex outside of
marriage is a lack of self-control. Self-control only comes from God.
No one has the power to defeat the flesh on his or her own.
We all want to be accepted, appreciated and loved
and when we donít get that at home, some of us go out of our way to go
get it. But it is morally wrong to go outside the bounds of marriage and
enjoy someone other than who we married. So why do some people do it?
The reality is most people who commit adultery wish they wouldnít have done it. But the minority few cheaters will continue to cheat on all their partners until they are physically unable to. They will never find satisfaction within themselves, so they get it from using and abusing others. Fortunately, this is only the minority, but works for both men and women.
Wrong thinking steers
people further and further away from God and closer and closer into sin.
A personís lustful thoughts eventually make him to commit adultery.
The need for acceptance and love is so strong in the mind that it leads
to sex outside of marriage.
The Lord is with you when
you are with him. If you seek him, he will be found by you, but if you
forsake him, he will forsake you. 2
Chronicles 15:2 NIV)
A personís infidelity
is only the symptom of a greater issue within them. Without seeking out
the Spiritual Christ for our spiritual well being, we will remain
separate from God and unable to remain self-controlled.
We need God!
Choosing to work on your
marriage will make you a stronger and better marriage partner in the
long run. You can skip all of this game playing with yourself and become
the person God intended you to be. God has made us wise enough to make
the right choices for ourselves. We can choose to love the person we
married or we can follow the ways of the world. Use the gifts God has
given you and work on your marriage.
For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, It teaches us to say ďNoĒ to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age. Titus 2:11-12
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