How a Wife Can Help
Her Husband Take His Headship Position
What does headship mean to you?
Headship is a position given to husbands as a means for him to lead and
manage his home in a healthy emotional and spiritual manner. God
commands that husbands oversee their household by protecting his wife
and family from outside negative influences and to care for and love his
family in the same way that Christ loved and cared for us, the church.
A good example of this is when Jesus
overturned the tables of the moneychangers in the church. This was one
of the rare occasions when Christ showed anger—it angered Him that
people were buying and selling in the temple of God because it
distracted true worshippers from God. “It is written, ‘My house
shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of
Christ Ones are the church, therefore,
we are commanded to lead and manage our marriage according to certain
God-given roles designed by the Master Himself. Are
we managing our marriage to please God or to please ourselves? Wives who
undermine their husband’s headship position or belittle their husbands
are emotionally and spiritually harming the marriage significantly.
When Jesus overturned the tables and
cast out the moneychangers from the church he essentially cleansed the
church of its corruption. This is how a husband is to cleanse his
marriage. “Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the
church, and gave himself for it, that he might sanctify and
cleanse it with the washing of water by the word.” (Ephesians
Now, washing of water by the word
means to manage your marriage according to the precepts and principles of
the word of God. Husbands are to cleanse their marriage of
impurities just as Jesus cleansed the church. This
is where headship comes in. It’s not demand-ship, nor is it
control-ship, but it is headship, which means “head or lead” of the
family unit in a loving/self-sacrificial manner. Help your wife
understand her role through your loving headship position.
“That he might present it (the
marriage) to himself as glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or
any such thing; but that it would be holy and without blemish.”
(Ephesians 5: 27) Husbands, this is your job. This is not your
wife’s job. Take back your God-given role and restore your marriage to
God! Woman was created from the man’s rib, it was not the other way
around. Adam was created first and then Eve was created as a helpmeet
for Adam. Now bear with me on this—the true illustration of this is
Does anyone have any idea why so many
marriages are falling apart? Well, it is because we aren’t managing
our marriages according to the Master Designer! God considers marriage
VERY important and this is why He exploits Christ and the church
as the living symbol of how marriage should be.
God portrays the relationship of
Christ being the head of the church and His role as a loving protector
and sacrifice of himself for her. And the church’s role (Christ Ones)
are subject to Christ through repentance and receiving forgiveness. (We
are subject unto Christ for salvation).
Therefore as the church is subject
unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
(Ephesians 5:24) Husbands and wives NEED to read and study the
scriptures together, not just on Sunday. If you are ever confused about
your God-given role in marriage, stop and ask yourself these questions.
“How would Jesus run His church”? “Would Jesus want this done in
his church’? “Am I
acting like Christ when I do this?” “Am I keeping God’s commands
for marriage if I did this”? Husbands
are pastors of their own home.
Headship is a lifestyle and this
lifestyle is what brings blessings and joys into the marriage
relationship. But when we rebel against our God-given Christian role,
whether it is the wife, the husband, or both, we corrupt our marriage.
Our marriages need cleanse from this corruption through inner healing of
ourselves and then restoration of our marriage to God!
Wives, your husband needs your
help—he can’t do his job if you aren’t letting him, or if you are
doing it for him. Let me tell you a little secret. The more we prance
down on our men or belittle their manly hood we rebel against God’s
will for us. We have a role in marriage too, and that role is not to
take over our husband’s position. Let your husband cleanse your
marriage through the word and give it back to God where it
When we rebel against our husband’s
role in marriage it will not only harm our relationship with God but it
will harm the sexual and emotional intimacy between husband and wife.
People wonder why there is so much sexual and emotional unfaithfulness
in marriage and this is why! Don’t
let this happen to your marriage. A man needs his loving and feminine
wife to allow him to do his job! It’s just the way he was built. The
blessings will be a closer and more intimate relationship with your
Men who take their God-given position
in the home with importance will always want a loving helpmeet to be by
his side, not a bossy and domineering woman. When you give your husband
the reins and let him guide you in Christ’s ways, you will come to
realize it was the way marriage was supposed to be. “That ye all
speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that
you be perfectly joined together in the same mind and in the same
judgment.” (1 Corinthians 1:10)
“Wives submit yourselves unto
your husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband IS the head of the
wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of
the body. (Ephesians 5:22-23)