to an Unbelieving Spouse: Shine Your Light
You Can Change Your Spouse
misnomer in society is people think that after theyíre married they
can change the things they donít like about their spouse. But this is
incorrect thinking to begin with. We cannot change anyone other than
ourselves, and to try causes numerous problems within the marriage. If
you cannot accept who you are going to marry, donít get married!
It is possible
though, to influence an unbelieving spouse through your virtuous actions
and then they may change on their own free will. But a person needs to
accept God on their own time frame.
Never give up
hope that one day your spouse will find wisdom, knowledge and truth for
his life like you have. Your good attitude is what brings the light in
front of your unbelieving spouse, and helps them to understand the great
mysteries of the unseen and spiritual world. Be their light and let it
shine bright always. Your light is the greatest influence of them all.
Let your light
shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your
Father in Heaven. Matthew 5:16
Critical or Self Righteous
Try not to become
critical of your spouse. When you play the self
righteous martyr act you will actually pull them further away from God.
Be perceptive and understanding as much as you possibly can, even if
they donít or wonít accept your faith. Your spouse knows they have
faults and they need to be ready to give those faults up, not you.
Patience is a
virtue. I know this can be difficult to do at times, but you have to let
them be their own judge, which brings them aware of their sin, and
hopefully closer to God. You are not your spouseís judge and
executioner, on the contrary, you are a part of the person you married,
and therefore you ought to make every effort to help them become free of
their life of sinful bondage through your support of them.
How do you know
wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know husband,
whether you will save your wife? 1 Corinthians 7:16
How can we
encourage those we love to come into the light with us? Understand that
you cannot make anyone do anything that they donít want to do. All you
can do is be true to yourself at all times and in all situations.
Continue to walk your talk in life; be a righteous example, not a self
righteous example. This in itself gets others to see what a good life
you have and from there, it is their turn to accept it or not.
If any brother
has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he
must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer
and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the
unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the
unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. 1
Questions For Couples
1. Name four ways a believing spouse can help the unbeliever accept Christ too?
2. Should a believing spouse get a divorce from the unbeliever? Why or why not?
3. How can the believer take care of themselves and not allow the sinful acts of the unbeliever control their actions? How can the believer detach with love?
Pray for the unbeliever every day.
Never give up hope that they will accept Christ one day.
Always keep God at the forefront of your marriage.
Be the LIGHT for those who are in the DARK.