To Treat Your Man Like A Man?
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Are you a controlling wife?
Do you take your husband for granted? Most women donít realize it but they
abuse their husbands daily just by their actions. Many women of today feel that
marriage revolves solely around them and their husbandís are supposed to give
them everything their heart desires.
I felt like this at one time in my
But have we ever thought that maybe if we arenít getting what
we want from our man it is because we are not treating our man like a man? I
think that if we stop pushing him around that heíll probably come around.
1. Donít undermine
your husbandís decision making
This is a biggy in
marriage. Isnít it true that we women want things our way! We have been taught
from grade school to go after our dreams and aspirations in life no matter what
the consequences, even if that means rejecting our husbandís needs and wishes.
We do what WE want and what WE need. Why would a woman of today be so determined
to chip away at her husbandís manly authority and advice?
Face it ladies, we
havenít exactly helped to make our man feel like a man of the house is we are
already doing it. If we donít respect the man we married, why would we expect to get what we want from him? If we are
rejecting, blaming, controlling, demeaning, undermining, and complaining about
our husbands we certainly arenít respecting the man we married.
If we weaken our
husbandís manly resolve whatís left but our feminist attitude and bossy
selfish egos? Are we taking the man we married for granted? I think we are and
thatís whatís killing marriage! How
do I know all this? I used to undermine my husband all the time. I wouldnít
let him be the man of the house. I was bossy and rebellious. I want you to know
what I have come to know. That's why I have created a marriage ministry.
2. Donít reject your
How many times last month
did you tell your husband that you were too tired or had a headache or simply
shrugged him off because you were mad at him? Probably more times then you
really think. Shouldnít we want to satisfy our husbandís needs every single
day, regardless, whether we feel like it or not? We women need to please and
satisfy the men weíre married to and weíll get our hearts desire. We really
Give and it comes back to you.
3. Give your husband
space (time with buddies)
Do you complain because
your husband likes to have free time away with the guys? Maybe you feel he
should be home doing chores or watching the children on his day off.
But face it ladies, our man deserves time away to be with his friends to
play golf, fish, sports, or hunt, or whatever it is he does just as much as we deserve to
be with our friends. Did you know that a husband that is allowed the freedom to
be with his buddies is a happier and more content filled man? Isnít that what
we want anyway?
4. Cook your husband hot
and nutritious meals every day
It is so true that one way
to our manís heart is through his stomach. Ask any man and heíll tell you. I
know that some of you ladies who work out of the home just donít have the time
to cook nice meals everyday. Buy a crock-pot and a crock-pot cookbook and learn
to make delicious homemade meals with it. Crock-pot cooking is so simple. You
throw all the ingredients in the pot and it cooks safely all day, and the food
will be ready when you both come home from work.
5. Respect your husband
Whatís so hard about
respecting the man we married? If we control the marriage and feel that our
husband canít do anything as good as we can, we certainly wonít be able to
respect him, right?
Is treating your husband like one of the children respecting
Is complaining about your husbands faults respecting him?
Is telling your husband what
heís going to do respecting him?
Is rejecting rejecting your husband sexually respecting him?
belittling your husband respecting him?
By not doing any of these things above you
will be on your way to respecting the man you married.
6. Let your husband
God made man to be the
protector of women. Men love to do it, they want to do it, and they feel like a
man when we let them do it. But most married women donít feel they need
protected because they can take care of themselves. They carry mace, a gun and
take karate classes and act like a man and still, they are getting beaten,
raped, manhandled, and murdered. If a woman is married why on earth would she
want to take away her husbands god-given natural abilities as a protector?
A married woman needs to
allow her husband do his job in the manner in which he does it best, by
protecting and loving his wife with the natural abilities God gave him. How can
a man do that when the woman wonít let him? This is how a man loves his woman!
Seriously now, itís
really that simple. What would happen if we didnít allow our husbands to
protect us? We would be rejecting
their love for us. Donít you want to be loved by your man? Did you know that
when we donít let our husbandís love us the way God meant for a man to love
his wife, we are rebelling against God?
7. Submit to your
husband (love God)
Ladies, first you must
learn to submit to God. This was a major issue in my marriage for many years
because I didnít accept God. I was looking out into the world for the answers
to my marriage problems when the answers were within my spiritual self the whole
time. I finally grew to accept and love God. That is the root of submitting
By growing out from the
selfish person I was, I learned to understand what submitting to my husband was
all about. Once a woman learns to submit to her husband she will see that by
submitting she is actually in more control of the marriage and a better marriage
wife because of it. In other words,
a woman will not lose anything of her self by submitting but will gain more of
herself that was lost.
ďNow I want you to know
that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the
head of Christ is God.Ē 1
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