About Heaven Ministries Heaven Ministries is a stepping-stone
towards the healing and restoration of marriages. In reality your
willingness to take the steps to restore your marriage can only be done
by you and your spouse. Heaven Ministries with the use of its materials
and counseling is only a guide to help you toward saving a troubled
marriage. As Christ Ones we have certain
responsibilities that set us apart from the world – that means we
handle our marriage differently than everybody else. Marriage is not
about serving ourselves but about service and principled acts of love to
one another according to the foundations of God. Marriage
Belongs To God Marriage Is a Living Symbol of
Christ’s Love For Us
…For the husband is the head of the
wife as Christ is the head of the Church, his body, of which he is the
Savior. Now as the Church submits to Christ, so also wives’ should
submit to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:23-24) Jesus Christ loved us (the church)
so much that He sacrificed His own life.
In marriage, sometimes we will need to sacrifice our wants for
that of our spouse. Suffering
through and experiencing those sacrifices is part of what our purpose in
marriage is. In Jesus’ day, women, children, and
slaves were to submit to the head of the family. Slaves submitted until
they were freed, male children until they grew up, and girls and women
their whole life. The bible tells believers to submit to one another out
of respect because it preserves order and harmony. According to the
Bible, the man is the spiritual head of the family, and the wife should
honor her husband by respecting his headship position. There is so
much written about “how to save a marriage” it can seem a bit
overwhelming at times. The truth is no one can really save your marriage
but you. Marriage gurus can throw out the breadcrumbs, but in the end it
is all about you and your willingness to do what really needs to be done
to save your marriage. Your
marriage belongs to God. And when you truly believe this that is when
you can actually give yourself (marriage) to God. If you don’t believe
that your marriage belongs to God then you have come to the wrong
website. What
happens when you hand your marriage over to God? God helps you to
look beyond the petty quarrelling, faults and weaknesses of each other.
Why focus on the negative? When you stop focusing on the negative
aspects of your spouse you will be better able to seek a solution, not
based on negative feelings, but on the principled acts of love. As long
as you base your marriage on “how your spouse makes you feel”
nothing will ever improve. Marriage
gurus can attempt to tell you what needs to be done to improve your
marriage but they can’t go to God for you. They can’t make your
heart willing to see what needs to be done so you can make the necessary
changes in yourself. If you believe that marriage belongs to God then
you have to give your marriage to God. Why do you keep giving it to the
world? Does your marriage belong to God or to the world? You decide. Are you
carrying around a not so humble heart toward your spouse? What is that
going to do for you? Absolutely nothing. I believe that once you can
take your eyes off of your spouse’s faults you’ll be able to see
your faults much more clearly. The problem is not that your spouse cheated, or that they are
controlling, or wrapped up within an addiction, or that they are cruel
and treat you bad. The problem is in how you allow these things to
affect you and how you react because of them. The root
of the problems in marriage stem from the inability to properly resolve
issues and the lack of understanding the importance of priorities.
The major setback for couples is they are not using the principles for
marriage that have been taught to them. Couples aren’t resolving
issues and when they do they go by their own understanding of what they
think should be done. But it is not what should be done based on the
Creator of marriage. Principle
2. Be a giver. Give in. Be encouraging. Show compassion. Be
submissive. Be forgiving. Ask Christ for the guidance you need. When we
don’t allow these principles to take precedent in our lives we are
handling our marriage just like everyone else…without God. If you
believe you are a child of God then show it in your marriage. Christian
love is not a feeling but a choice. Have you made your choice? Principle
3. Be respectful of Spouse. Be
considerate of your spouse’s feelings. Show reverence and high opinion
for the person you married. Be
appreciative of what you have been blessed with. I’ve noticed lately
that people treat their animals better than their spouse. This is very
wrong! Let go of anger and bitterness or it will make you sick,
literally. What is controlling your heart in your marriage? If your
heart only cares about getting your needs met through your spouse then
your marriage is in dire trouble. THE ROOT OF
THE PROBLEM IS… Principle
1. God should guide
your marriage. Placing God where God belongs, at the top of your
priority list is what your marriage needs! Humble your heart and mind to
God and you will see more clearly to what your position is in the
marriage. You are not God and your spouse is not God, and trying to
control each other as if you were God will never work! That’s not the
way God designed marriage to be. Putting God
first means everything you say and do comes from the principles taught
you for living a righteous life. Now you will have something beautiful
and awesome to base your marriage on.
If your marriage belongs to God then the top of your priority
list is putting God first, spouse second, children third, and ministry
and self last. And he sat
down, and called the twelve, and saith unto them, If any man desire to
be first, the same shall be last of all, and servant of all. Mark 9:35 Welcome to Heaven Ministries – Marriage Healing Ministry. |