Choosing To Work On Your Marriage
by Angie Lewis
When marriage troubles come
butting their ugly little heads in your marriage, you can choose to persevere
and work through those troubles, or you can give up and become another divorce
statistic. Why not choose the best and most beneficial option for you and your
spouse and work on the issues that are affecting your marriage?
God would be pleased with your decision.
It takes a lot of faith not
just in God but in yourself as a person to want to work on a marriage you know
that you could just as easily walk away from. Some people walk away from their
marriages, but that doesn’t mean you have to. Is there a potential within your
character that gives you the perseverance to want to put forth the needed effort
that your marriage needs?
No matter what your
marriage needs or what you think it might be lacking, through God, you and your
spouse can discover the missing dimensions and put your marriage back together
again. It only takes the willingness and spiritual effort to want to share
yourself with your spouse; to give without wanting anything in return, and to
bring love, joy, hope and encouragement to the person you married. Can you do
that? Sure you can.
But the fruit of the Spirit
is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and
self-control. Galatians’ 5:22-23
It takes courage for a
person to stand up under certain sufferings in a marriage gone bad when all of
their friends and family persistently tell them to leave their spouse. But it is
at these trying times in marriage when we can really humble to Christ’s
determination for us and allow Him to work through our troubled hearts while He
works his awesome powers in our marriage.
Trusting in the Lord enough
to hand over the reins to Him and developing from our newfound love of Jesus
Christ is the faith I have been talking about. With God all things are possible
and achievable. All marriages can be saved, even yours! Your marriage can be
healed and restored.
…So that Christ may dwell
in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established
in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and
long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that
surpasses all knowledge - that you may be filled to the measure of all the
fullness of God. Ephesians’ 3:17-19
Choosing to work on your
marriage makes you a stronger person; helps you to grow wholly in the Lord and
gives you a newborn respect for the person you have become. Through your
spiritual effort toward your marriage, you realize that you can choose to do
what is right rather than what only gives YOU pleasure. You realize how much you
really do love and respect the person you married. You learn that through God
anything is possible and very achievable as long as you remain steadfast and
faithful. You realize your marriage belongs to God, is sanctified by God, and is
blessed only because of your willingness to allow God’s perfect design into
your life. You realize now what Jesus meant when he said, “Blessed are the
meek, for they will inherit the earth.” (Matthew 5:5)
Trust in the Lord with all
your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge
him, and he will make your paths straight.
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Copyright 2006 Heaven Ministries ~ Angie Lewis