Heaven Ministries
April 2011
Newsletter #80

Marriage Alive! Newsletter   

 Marriage Articles

Don't Ask The Alcoholic To Make Promises They Can't Keep

I Don't Want A Divorce!

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and Free

 

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How a Husband Should Love His Wife a Wife He Husband

God made them male and female for a reason. 1) To give and receive sexual pleasure in marriage. 2) To bear children for the Lord. 3) To compliment one another in marriage. 4) To show the example of Christ and the churchómarriage is the living symbol of Christ and the church. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  He nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church.  (Ephesians 5: 28-29) And this is the way marriage should be. 

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How to Forgive and Love a Cheating Spouse

As Christians are we supposed to forgive a cheating spouse? If your spouse is repentant it is our duty to forgive our spouse. Jesus gave us a good example of this forgiveness when he told everyone who was without sin to drop their stones and to not stone the woman to death.   

He forgave the adulterous woman. But what did Jesus say to the woman? He said 'turn from your sin and sin no more'.  True repentance is not letting sin control our thoughts, minds, hearts, and souls. True repentance means putting away the sin which is keeping us from God, and becoming reborn in Jesus Christ and becoming a new person for service to God according to His purpose for us.

This ebook will help you to forgive, it will show you how to heal your self and restore your marriage after your spouse has committed adultery. To read more about this book, click here. 

 

How Do I Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse?

Are you living with a Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde? Do you awake in your bed and wish you didn't have to start the day with an abusive alcoholic? Are you riding on an addictive roller coaster ride with the alcoholic you married? Do you often feel afraid and depressed because you don't know how the alcoholic is going to behave? Well, it's time to break free! It's time to get off the roller coaster ride and rescue yourself from the behaviors of the alcoholic you live with and love. 

Rescue Yourself From the Traps of Alcoholism

We  hope that you make good use of our healing materials that we have carefully put together by putting the strategies and guidance to work in your personal life and marriage. It is very possible to learn to live with and love the alcoholic in your life, without "it" making YOU go crazy. Don't let addiction steal another minute of your day!

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Definition of Marriage
Noah Webster 1828 Dictionary

Marriage: The act of uniting a man and woman for life; wedlock; the legal union of a man and woman for life. Marriage is a contract both civil and religious, by which the parties engage to live together in mutual affection and fidelity, till death shall separate them. 

Marriage was instituted by God himself for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and education of children

Married To An Alcoholic: Donít Ask The Alcoholic
To Make Promises They Canít Keep

 

It can be very difficult being married to an alcoholic, especially if the alcoholic is verbally abusive when they drink. Most alcoholics are. I was an abusive alcoholic and my husband used to record me when I got abusive with him. The next day he would make me listen to myself verbally abuse him.  I was awful! He never once told me to stop verbally abusing him, instead he learned to detach from it.

Many frustrated spouses end up trying to control the alcoholic. They want to start telling the alcoholic how to behave. They want to tell the alcoholic to stop drinking. They want to make the alcoholic treat them better.  They want promises from the alcoholic because they canít take it anymore!

But in all honesty weíre only spinning our wheels. The wheels keep going round and round and we still havenít managed to get the alcoholic to change! Why? Itís because the alcoholic cannot keep promisesóthey are addicted to alcohol. If they did not have a drinking problem then they would be able to keep their promises. When we expect the alcoholic to make promises we will be greatly disappointed. Donít expect and you wonít end up being disappointed.

When disappointment sets in it makes our living environment even more difficult. Know that the alcoholic you live with will most certainly break almost every single promise they make to you just because that is how addiction worksóthey are under the influence of alcohol. When you tell an alcoholic to do something you may as well be talking to a brick wall. A bad as that seems, itís the truth. 

The ironic thing is the alcoholic may sincerely want to changeóthey may genuinely try to not treat you bad, but once that alcohol goes down their throat and into their blood stream, its like telling a snail to hurry up. Sadly, when the alcoholic realizes they canít keep their promises, guilt sets in and they drink even more. Addiction is a funny thing; it has such a strong hold on the addict that it canít be given up until the alcoholic is ready.

The best thing a loved one can do when living with an alcoholic is not to ask the alcoholic to make promises you know they canít keep and donít expect too much from the alcoholic. Donít let your expectations get to high, youíll only be let down. Instead learn to detach from the behaviors of the alcoholic and rescue you from the emotional roller coaster today! Here is a great video to help you to learn how to detach from the alcoholic with love.

How Do I Detach From An Alcoholic Spouse? This ebook is packed full of excellent information that will help you to break away from the addiction and to begin to live your life for YOU, plus help the alcoholic at the same time! 

Do you want to help your spouse get sober? Than stop trying to control every aspect of the addiction. Only when you stop trying to fix your spouse and take care of YOU can you be a valuable help to the alcoholic. Do you often feel like you are drowning with the alcoholic? Do you feel sad, panicky, depressed, stressed out, helpless, and emotionally and spiritually sick? Donít go under with the alcoholic, swim quickly back to the shore! This eBook shows you what you need to do to rescue YOU from the traps of alcoholism!

Video - "Detach From Alcoholics Emotions and Behaviors". 

 

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I Don't Want A Divorce!

There is too much divorce in the world! Many spouses who are divorced did not want a divorce in the first place, but what could they do? Many men and women instead of divorce would have rather stayed married to their first spouse and work on the marriage. But the initiator of the divorce was too stubborn, rebellious and selfish to work on the problems surrounding the marriage. They thought they saw greener grass across the fence, but in reality the grass was not any greener than their own. 

So what are these divorced people to do? Many who have been divorced seek out another spouse because they do not want to be alone for the rest of their life. But is this God's will? 

God says, "let man not put asunder what He sanctified and joined". But is not divorce something man made which is putting asunder holy matrimony? It sure is. 

Scripture does not talk about remarriage because it is not God's will to remarry! Marriage is a permanent situation where two people vowed and willed themselves to be together for the rest of their lives. It is not something that can be broken apart by a man calling it a divorce and signing some paperwork. 

If your spouse has divorced you, it is God's will that you pray for them and hope that one day they may come into the light and truth about marriage and repent of their wrong-doing. This is all you can do. Sometimes we must suffer for doing what is right because suffering gives us perseverance and faith. 

People absolutely need to take marriage more seriously--its not something that we should jump into lightly, thinking we can divorce our spouse should we feel unhappy. No, marriage is until death do us part, therefore we need to jump into marriage with the conviction of commitment written on our hearts and in our minds and know we will be married for a lifetime, thru the good times as well as the bad times. 

Video - I Don't Want A Divorce!

 

 

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Living Frugal, Happy and Free Blog. 

Living frugal, happy and free is our new self sufficiency blog where we have informational videos and short articles on healthy cooking, gardening, natural health, decorating, self sufficiency, and home repairs and improvements The video below is our latest video on buying old furniture and restoring them to new. In this particular video we bought a junky but sturdy wicker side table for $4 and restored it to life. It makes a good looking shelf in a corner of the living room. 

 

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Frank and Angie

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