|Marriage Alive! Newsletter|
God made them male and female for a reason. 1) To give and receive sexual pleasure in marriage. 2) To bear children for the Lord. 3) To compliment one another in marriage. 4) To show the example of Christ and the churchómarriage is the living symbol of Christ and the church. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. He nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church. (Ephesians 5: 28-29) And this is the way marriage should be.
How to Forgive and Love a Cheating Spouse
As Christians are we supposed to forgive a cheating spouse? If your spouse is repentant it is our duty to forgive our spouse. Jesus gave us a good example of this forgiveness when he told everyone who was without sin to drop their stones and to not stone the woman to death.
He forgave the adulterous woman. But what did Jesus say to the woman? He said 'turn from your sin and sin no more'. True repentance is not letting sin control our thoughts, minds, hearts, and souls. True repentance means putting away the sin which is keeping us from God, and becoming reborn in Jesus Christ and becoming a new person for service to God according to His purpose for us.
This ebook will help you to forgive, it will show you how to heal your self and restore your marriage after your spouse has committed adultery. To read more about this book, click here.
It can be very difficult being married to an
alcoholic, especially if the alcoholic is verbally abusive when they
drink. Most alcoholics are. I was an abusive alcoholic and my husband used
to record me when I got abusive with him. The next day he would make me
listen to myself verbally abuse him.
I was awful! He never once told me to stop verbally abusing him,
instead he learned to detach from it.
Many frustrated spouses end up trying to
control the alcoholic. They want to start telling the alcoholic how to
behave. They want to tell the alcoholic to stop drinking. They want to
make the alcoholic treat them better.
They want promises from the alcoholic because they canít take it
But in all honesty weíre only spinning our wheels.
The wheels keep going round and round and we still havenít managed to
get the alcoholic to change! Why? Itís because the alcoholic cannot keep
promisesóthey are addicted to alcohol. If they did not have a drinking
problem then they would be able to keep their promises. When we expect
the alcoholic to make promises we will be greatly disappointed.
Donít expect and you wonít end up being disappointed.
When disappointment sets in it makes our living
environment even more difficult. Know that the alcoholic you live with
will most certainly break almost every single promise they make to you
just because that is how addiction worksóthey are under the influence of
alcohol. When you tell an alcoholic to do something you may as well be
talking to a brick wall. A bad as that seems, itís the truth.
The ironic thing is the alcoholic may sincerely want
to changeóthey may genuinely try to not treat you bad, but once that
alcohol goes down their throat and into their blood stream, its like
telling a snail to hurry up. Sadly, when the alcoholic realizes they
canít keep their promises, guilt sets in and they drink even more.
Addiction is a funny thing; it has such a strong hold on the addict that
it canít be given up until the alcoholic is ready.
The best thing a loved one can do when living with an
alcoholic is not to ask the alcoholic to make promises you know they
canít keep and donít expect too much from the alcoholic. Donít let
your expectations get to high, youíll only be let down. Instead learn to
detach from the behaviors of the alcoholic and rescue you from the
emotional roller coaster today! Here is a great video to help you to learn
how to detach from the alcoholic with love.
How Do I Detach From An Alcoholic Spouse? This ebook is packed full of excellent information that will help you to break away from the addiction and to begin to live your life for YOU, plus help the alcoholic at the same time!
Do you want to help your spouse get sober? Than stop trying to control every aspect of the addiction. Only when you stop trying to fix your spouse and take care of YOU can you be a valuable help to the alcoholic. Do you often feel like you are drowning with the alcoholic? Do you feel sad, panicky, depressed, stressed out, helpless, and emotionally and spiritually sick? Donít go under with the alcoholic, swim quickly back to the shore! This eBook shows you what you need to do to rescue YOU from the traps of alcoholism!
Video - "Detach From Alcoholics Emotions and Behaviors".
There is too much divorce in the world! Many spouses who are divorced did not want a divorce in the first place, but what could they do? Many men and women instead of divorce would have rather stayed married to their first spouse and work on the marriage. But the initiator of the divorce was too stubborn, rebellious and selfish to work on the problems surrounding the marriage. They thought they saw greener grass across the fence, but in reality the grass was not any greener than their own.
So what are these divorced people to do? Many who have been divorced seek out another spouse because they do not want to be alone for the rest of their life. But is this God's will?
God says, "let man not put asunder what He sanctified and joined". But is not divorce something man made which is putting asunder holy matrimony? It sure is.
Scripture does not talk about remarriage because it is not God's will to remarry! Marriage is a permanent situation where two people vowed and willed themselves to be together for the rest of their lives. It is not something that can be broken apart by a man calling it a divorce and signing some paperwork.
If your spouse has divorced you, it is God's will that you pray for them and hope that one day they may come into the light and truth about marriage and repent of their wrong-doing. This is all you can do. Sometimes we must suffer for doing what is right because suffering gives us perseverance and faith.
People absolutely need to take marriage more seriously--its not something that we should jump into lightly, thinking we can divorce our spouse should we feel unhappy. No, marriage is until death do us part, therefore we need to jump into marriage with the conviction of commitment written on our hearts and in our minds and know we will be married for a lifetime, thru the good times as well as the bad times.
Video - I Don't Want A Divorce!
Living frugal, happy and free is our new self sufficiency blog where we have informational videos and short articles on healthy cooking, gardening, natural health, decorating, self sufficiency, and home repairs and improvements The video below is our latest video on buying old furniture and restoring them to new. In this particular video we bought a junky but sturdy wicker side table for $4 and restored it to life. It makes a good looking shelf in a corner of the living room.
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