Designed Marriage To Be Permanent
God designed marriage to be permanent. He did not
change His own law and allow for divorce! That is absolutely ridiculous.
Moses changed the law because of people’s hardened hearts! Back in
Moses days, husbands were throwing their wives out into the streets
where they were being raped, brutally beaten and sometimes killed.
To help women not be thrown out in the street
like animals, Moses felt compelled to enact a new law. The new law was
that a man had to write a formal letter of dismissal and go to court to
be able to divorce his wife—they could no longer throw their wives out
in the street where they were often taken advantage of. (Deuteronomy 24:
1-4) This new law deterred husbands from divorcing their wives.
Now, let’s go back to the beginning for a moment.
God joined two people (male and female) together sexually into one
flesh, which creates the union of marriage between a man and a wife.
No one and nothing is able to separate what God joined together. God
states, “let man not separate”.
“…So they are no longer two, but one.
Therefore what God has joined together, let man NOT separate.” (NIV
But the Pharisees were trying to trick Jesus. The
Pharisees were always trying to trick Jesus throughout the scriptures
(New Testament). They were puzzled because God said that a man could not
separate what He joined together, and yet here was a man called Moses
permitting men to divorce their wives. He was separating them.
“Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command
that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away? (NIV
He saith unto them, “Moses because of the
hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives, but from
the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, whosoever shall put
away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another,
committeth adultery, and whoso marrieth her, which is put away doth
commit adultery. (KJV Matthew 19:8-9)
The exception clause is not talking about two
married people but two betrothed people. Jesus was talking to the Jews who believed in
being betrothed before getting married, which was done for various reasons but usually
so the "soon to be husband" could provide for his wife and family. The
above scripture is referring to unmarried people that were only
betrothed and not actually married. "Fornication" is having
sex between two unmarried people. If they were really married rather
than betrothed, it would read, "except it be for adultery".
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A
brother or sister in not under bondage in such cases: But God hath
called us to peace. (1 Corinthians 7:15)
Do not misread the above scripture. It does not say
you can remarry. It only says, “not under bondage”. What
can you do if the unbeliever wants to leave the marriage? All you can do
is let them leave to "keep the peace" as scripture says. It
merely says it is ok to let the unbeliever leave the marriage if that is
what they want to do.. It does not say to get a divorce or to remarry anyone else
There is no remarriage in scripture.
To the married I give this command (not I but the
Lord): A wife must NOT separate from her husband. But if she does she
must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a
husband must NOT divorce his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:10-11)
Marriage Is Permanent!
God wants married couples to stop looking for
reasons to leave marriage. He wants us to concentrate on how to stay
together. Marriage is until death parts you from one another. But if
your spouse is so spiritually sick with a hardened heart, you certainly
can’t stop them from divorcing you.
Although divorce seems legal in the eyes of man,
because Moses permitted it, in God’s eyes couples are still married
until death of either spouse. This is why God says remarriage, if
one spouse is still alive, is committing adultery.
For example, by law a married woman is bound to
her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is
released from the law of marriage. So then, if she married another man
while her husband is alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her
husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress,
even though she married another man. (Romans 7:2-3)
Are you having a hard time forgiving your spouse of
adultery? Do you keep picturing your spouse with the other person? Do
you not trust your spouse anymore? Is your marriage about to collapse?
Is your spouse repentant for their infidelity?
Then read Angie's book ADULTERY PANDEMIC.
If you or your spouse has been unfaithful, this book will give
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