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What's Inside "How Do I Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse?"

 

Part I

How Do I Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse

*Stop Trying to Fix the Alcoholic
*Detach With Love; Never in Anger
*What to do When The Alcoholic Gets Abusive
*Don’t Let the Alcoholic Manipulate You!
*Setting Personal Boundaries to Define Your Space
*Encourage the Alcoholic When They Aren’t Drinking
*Stop Rescuing the Alcoholic and Rescue YOU Instead
*Don’t Allow Yourself To Become A Victim
*Why Can’t We Just Settle For God?
*Don’t be Controlled by the Alcoholic
*Ask God to Rid you of Resentment and Anger
*Put Your Faith, Hope and Trust in God
 

 

Part II

How Do I Help my Alcoholic Spouse Get Sober

*10 Obvious Ways We Enable or Rescue
*10 Subtle Ways we Enable or Rescue
*Don’t Fuss and Argue with the Alcoholic
*Back off from the Alcoholic and Rescue YOU
*Stay on Top of the Addiction
*Do’s and Don’t for Enablers and Rescuers
*Let the Alcoholic Take Responsibility
*7 Ways a Loved One Rescues
*7 Ways a Loved One Enables
*Help for the Typical Enabler
*Stop Putting Band-Aids on the Alcoholics Wounds
*Emotionally Detach from the Alcoholic 
*Don’t Drown with the Alcoholic
*Stop Believing You Can Get Them Sober  

Part III

How to Cope when Married to and Living with an Alcoholic? Biblically Speaking Can I Divorce my Spouse?

*Marriage Belongs to God
*Is Your Marriage Set Apart From the World?
*Loved Ones of Alcoholics Still Have Responsibilities
*Understanding God’s Perception on Addiction
*Healing From Years of Emotional and Mental Abuse
*Commitment Means Working on our Personal Problems
*Caught in a Spider’s Trap
*What Is God’s Will For Your Marriage?
*Facts About Marriage 
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Are There *Exceptions to the Marriage Law?
*Only Death Ends Marriage, according to God

Part IV

 (Bonus Ebook for the Alcoholic)
How Do I Get Sober, Stay Sober and Be Happy?

*How Alcoholism Controls Your Life
*Alcoholic is NOT who you are
*Poor Diet Keeps the Alcoholic Craving Alcohol
*5 Triggers That Spark Addiction
*When a Non-alcoholic Takes a Drink This is What Happens
*When an Alcoholic takes a Drink this is What Happens
*Conquering the Emotional Aspects of Alcoholism
*Healing Takes the Work of God *What Happens If I Relapse?
*What Hurdles Trigger a Relapse? *Still Living in the Past
*Not Committed to Quitting
*Birds of a Feather Flock Together
*Give Your Addiction to God

How Do I Detach From an 
Alcoholic Spouse? 
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We have included in How to Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse helpful tips on helping the alcoholic to sobriety and more ways to cope when married to and living with an alcoholic, plus, how to set boundaries that give you back your life.

How Do I Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse is packed full of excellent information that will help you to break away from the addiction and to begin to live your life for YOU, plus help the alcoholic at the same time! 

Detach With Love

Are you living with a Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde? Do you wake up in the morning and wish you didn't have to start the day with an abusive alcoholic? Are you riding on an addictive roller coaster ride with the alcoholic you married? Do you often feel afraid and depressed because you don't know how the alcoholic is going to behave? Are you emotionally and mentally drained because of the behaviors and abuses of the alcoholic in your life? Well, it's time to break free! It's time to get off the roller coaster ride and rescue yourself from the behaviors of the alcoholic you live with and love. We offer the solutions you need to get your life back and be happy while living with the alcoholic. 

Rescue Yourself From the Traps of Alcoholism

We  hope that you make good use of our healing materials that we have carefully put together by putting the strategies and guidance to work in your personal life and marriage. It is very possible to learn to live with and love the alcoholic in your life, without "it" making YOU go crazy. Don't let addiction steal another minute of your day!

Help Your Spouse get Sober!

Do you want to help your spouse get sober? Than stop trying to control every aspect of the addiction. Only when you stop trying to fix your spouse and take care of YOU can you be a valuable help to the alcoholic. Do you often feel like you are drowning with the alcoholic? Do you feel sad, panicky, depressed, stressed out, helpless, and emotionally and spiritually sick? Don’t go under with the alcoholic, swim quickly back to the shore! This eBook shows you what you need to do to rescue YOU from the traps of alcoholism!

Don't be the Victim Any Longer

Addiction is so cunning that the alcoholic can manipulate their way into your emotions in such a way to make you believe you are the victim instead of them!  Cut the rope! Tough love is all about cutting the rope between you and the alcoholic. Married couples are and always will be attached because God created them as “one flesh” in marriage, but you don’t have to be attached to the symptoms of alcoholism. You must help your self first before you can help the alcoholic. 

Is Divorce the Answer When Married to an Alcoholic?

Is divorce the answer to ending the frustration and suffering of living with an alcoholic spouse? When we are going through suffering in our marriage, divorce almost always seems like the light at the end of the tunnel, but it isn't always as bright as we think. It is God's will that we take the good times of our marriage along with the bad. Together couples can conquer addiction by working on self-healing and being supportive of each other. This ebook expresses God's will for couples in marriage who are going through the sufferings and pains of addiction. We know its never easy, but putting the solutions we advise in our ebook will make living with, and loving an alcoholic, easier for the whole family. We know because we've been there. 

Alcoholism is a Family Affair

Jumping the hurdle of being married to an alcoholic may seem very difficult to do, because it is, but overcoming through your own personal growth will make you stronger and wiser person because of your willingness to conquer adversity in your personal life and marriage. You can overcome! We've done it and many other spouses of alcoholics have done it too. This is why we wrote this eBook...to give you step by step instructions on how to live with and love the alcoholic in your life. How to Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse is your arsenal to survival. 

Bonus Ebook: Get Sober and Be Happy at the Same Time!

Do you want to get sober? Are you tired of abusing your loved ones with mean and angry words? Are you tired of being trapped within the confounds of addiction? Do you often feel guilty and hate yourself for the things you do and say when drinking? Have you tried to stop drinking but can't or relapsed? Are you serious about getting healthy in mind and spirit? If you answered "yes" to these questions then I believe YOU ARE ready to get sober for good! Addiction is a hurdle in your life that you can conquer!

Getting Sober for Good is Total Sobriety

Getting sober for good is what we know to be TOTAL sobriety, which is healthy in mind, body and spirit. The author knows your pain and suffering first hand. She's been there and done that already. She got out of the trap of alcoholism and so can you! Heaven Ministries has put together the nuts and bolts of healing from all the aspects of alcoholism, based on personal experience and from counseling couples on addiction over the past ten years. 

Escape From the Trap of Alcoholism

We  hope that you make good use of our healing materials that we have carefully put together by putting the strategies and guidance to work in your personal life and marriage. It is very possible to learn to live with and love the alcoholic in your life, without "it" making YOU go crazy. Don't let addiction steal another minute of your day!

Thank you for your support of this ministry!
Blessings,
Angie and Frank
 
PS...Email us anytime you need additional encouragement and support for dealing with the alcoholic in your life.

 Thanks. If you have questions please contact us at Angie"@"heavenministries.com (take out the quotation marks around the @ sign)

 

TESTIMONIES from our readers 
(Testimonies from others who have read this eBook or our other books on alcoholism)

Thank you. I read your book about Detaching from the Alcoholic Spouse over the weekend. Your words rang true deep within my heart. Actually, on the way to church, my son, who is studying with Moody Bible college almost repeated verbatim what you wrote! May God bless you and your husband with this very real ministry.

I LOVE YOUR column and I have your book.   I thought I was detaching but after reading today I realize I have a long ways to go.. 

Hi Angie n Frank, this book is really helpful for me. now it is easy for me to understand my husband and his alcohol problem. i will try my best to be calm n patient while his drinking n give him all my love n support.......................you guys are doing great job. keep it up. God bless you. thanx.
regards. R. 

Angie,
I want to thank you for all you're doing to help those who are living with this disease. I stumbled across your website last week on my 21st anniversary. After 20 years of doing it the wrong way and separating from my husband, I found Al-Anon and began my life anew. Everything you say is so true. The first benefit of detachment is that you find peace within yourself. As you gain strength, you begin to realize that you'll be fine whether the alcoholic gets help or not. You're living your life for yourself, your children, your job, your friends..... the good stuff. I'm still saddened by the loss of the marriage I wanted to have, but I know I can remain committed to him (in an emotionally safe way) and have a great life at the same time. I wish you and your family a very happy new year.

Hi, I downloaded your ebook How to Detach... Info has been very helpful! Thanks for your time & thanks for all the info! T. 

Hi, this isn't so much a request for marriage guidance, but a thank you for this website (Heaven Ministries).  It has answered questions that have remained unanswered for me for a long time and very few people actually understand that I'm not mad to stay with my husband who's an alcoholic binge drinker.  I am a Christian and love my husband.  We need more articles of this type, as opposed to 'get rid' and move on advice.  Anyway, thanks again you have really encouraged me and given me hope.

Angie Lewis's book gives insight into the mind of an alcoholic and the chaos that ensues. I truly believe that most humans are touched by either alcohol or an alcoholic at some point in our lives. This book is a great resource and I encourage those who have authority to place this book where many can draw from the experience, wisdom, and ministry that Angie and her husband offer. (Review of Angie's book, The Alcoholism Trap)

Hi Angie. I read all of the articles on your website on addiction in marriage.  I came across it via google and it gave me hope, as in my heart I know I didn't marry the wrong person, even though people on the outside would try and say different.  Too many people give advice to 'jump ship', but I know divorce has it's own inherent problems.  I have learnt so many strategies for living life in peace, no matter what the circumstances.  It means a lot to me to have you and your husband praying for my husband and marriage.  I look forward to reading more on your website and going back to the material when I need a little encouragement!
Thanks again!

Yesterday morning, I remembered I had purchased your book “The Alcoholism Trap”.  We sat down and read it aloud to each other.  Both of us found so much comfort in your words and the bible verses.  You are right…only God can delivery Jim. Thank you so much for the strength in your words! I know the battle is not won and there is a long road and lifetime commitment involved.  But God is here!  And your book helped us to realize that.  Thank you, Angela!  And God bless you and your ministry! G.M

If you have questions please contact us at Angie"@"heavenministries.com (take out the quotation marks around the @ sign)

 

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