How Do I Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse?
Trying to Fix the Alcoholic
*Detach With Love; Never in Anger
*What to do When
The Alcoholic Gets Abusive
*Don’t Let the Alcoholic Manipulate You!
*Setting Personal Boundaries to Define Your Space
*Encourage the Alcoholic When They Aren’t Drinking
*Stop Rescuing the Alcoholic and Rescue YOU Instead
*Don’t Allow Yourself To Become A Victim
*Why Can’t We Just Settle For God?
*Don’t be Controlled by the Alcoholic
to Rid you of Resentment and Anger
*How You Can Help the Alcoholic You Love
*Put Your Faith, Hope and Trust in God
How Do I Help my Alcoholic Spouse Get Sober
*10 Obvious Ways We Enable or
*10 Subtle Ways we Enable or Rescue
*Don’t Fuss and Argue with the Alcoholic
*Back off from the Alcoholic and Rescue YOU
*Stay on Top of the Addiction
*Do’s and Don’t for Enablers and Rescuers
*Let the Alcoholic Take Responsibility
*7 Ways a Loved One Rescues
*7 Ways a Loved One Enables
*Help for the Typical Enabler
*Stop Putting Band-Aids on the Alcoholics Wounds
*Emotionally Detach from the Alcoholic
*Don’t Drown with the Alcoholic
*Stop Believing You Can Get Them Sober
How to Cope when
Married to and Living with an Alcoholic? Biblically Speaking Can I Divorce
*Marriage Belongs to
*Is Your Marriage Set Apart From the World?
*Loved Ones of
Alcoholics Still Have Responsibilities
*Understanding God’s Perception on Addiction
*Healing From Years of Emotional and Mental Abuse
*Commitment Means Working on our Personal Problems
*Caught in a Spider’s Trap
*What Is God’s Will For Your Marriage?
*Facts About Marriage
*Are There *Exceptions to the Marriage Law?
*Only Death Ends Marriage, according to God
How to Get Sober, Stay Sober and Be Happy
(written for the alcoholic, of course)
Alcoholism Controls Your Life
*Alcoholic is NOT who you are
*Poor Diet Keeps the Alcoholic
*5 Triggers That Spark Addiction
*When a Non-alcoholic Takes a Drink
This is What Happens
*When an Alcoholic takes a Drink this is
*Conquering the Emotional Aspects of
*Healing Takes the Work of God
*What Happens If I Relapse?
Hurdles Trigger a Relapse?
Living in the Past
*Not Committed to Quitting
*Birds of a Feather Flock Together
*Give Your Addiction to God
You Seen Dr. Jekyl Drink Himself Into Mr. Hyde?
If You Live With An Alcoholic, You Have
Are you living with a Dr. Jekyl
and Mr. Hyde?
- Do you wake up in the
morning and wish you didn't have to start
the day with an abusive alcoholic?
- Are you riding on an addictive roller
coaster ride with the alcoholic you married?
- Do you often feel afraid
and depressed because you don't know how the alcoholic is going to
behave? Well, it's time to break free!
- Do you often feel like
are drowning with the alcoholic?
Do you often feel sad, panicky, depressed,
stressed out, helpless, and emotionally and spiritually sick? Don’t go under
with the alcoholic. We're going to show you how to swim quickly back to the shore!
- It's time to get off the
roller coaster ride and rescue yourself from the behaviors of the
alcoholic you live with and love. This eBook is in four parts.
please view on the left each part included in this Ebook to see that we
have left nothing out.
Book is an essential read if you are married to an alcoholic!
Don't be left behind. Everyone who is married to an alcoholic is
learning to detach and get their life back, and so can you!
have included in How
to Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse helpful tips
on helping the alcoholic to
sobriety and more ways to cope when married to and living with an
alcoholic, plus, how to set boundaries that give you back your life.
you know these facts about alcoholism?
1) When the enabler stops
enabling, the alcoholic has a better chance at sobriety?
2) When the enabler/rescuer learns to detach with love, they will find
3) Drinking is s symptom of an underlying emotional issue within the
4) Blood sugar health issues is what triggers the physical addiction to
5) There are four main aspects of alcoholism that need to be addressed
for total sobriety?
6) The alcoholic has a better chance at sobriety by "how you
react" to them
7) We offer the support you need by showing you step by step what you
can do to tackle these issues.
have been there and done and this is why we can help you, today!
The Secrets of Emotional Detachment
This Ebook offers
everything there is to learn about detaching from the alcoholic and
still loving them at the same time! We hope that you make good use
of our healing from addiction materials that we have carefully put together by putting
the strategies and guidance to work in your personal life and marriage.
It is very possible to learn to live with and love the alcoholic in your
life, without "it" making YOU go crazy. Don't let addiction
steal another minute of your day! We
offer the solutions you need to get your life back and be happy while
living with the alcoholic.
You Don't Have To Feel
Helpless and Frustrated
Say good bye to helplessness and
frustration and say hello to "I've got my life back"! Learn the
proper ways to react to the alcoholic. Learn when to react to the alcoholic.
Learn why your reactions can keep the alcoholic stuck within the addiction.
Learn how YOU can be a valuable help to
the Victim Any Longer
Addiction is so cunning that the alcoholic can
manipulate their way into your emotions in such a way to make you believe you
are the victim instead of them! Cut the rope! Tough
love is all about cutting the rope between you and the alcoholic. Married
couples are and always will be attached because God created them as “one
flesh” in marriage, but you don’t have to be attached to the
symptoms of alcoholism. You must help your self first before you can
help the alcoholic.
We hope that you make good use of our
healing materials that we have carefully put together by putting the
strategies and guidance to work in your personal life and marriage. It is very
possible to learn to live with and love the alcoholic in your life, without
"it" making YOU go crazy. Don't let addiction steal another minute
of your day!
the Answer When Married to an Alcoholic?
How Will I
Is divorce the answer to ending the frustration and
suffering of living with an alcoholic spouse? When we are going through
suffering in our marriage, divorce almost always seems like the light at the
end of the tunnel, but it isn't always as bright as we think. It is God's will
that we take the good times of our marriage along with the bad. Together
couples can conquer addiction by working on self-healing and being supportive
of each other. This ebook expresses God's will for couples in
marriage who are going through the sufferings and pains of addiction. We
know its never easy, but putting the solutions we advise in our ebook will
make living with, and loving an alcoholic, easier for the whole family. We
know because we've been there. In very few instances will you have to
leave the alcoholic.
is a Family Affair But You Can Overcome!!
Jumping the hurdle of being married to an
alcoholic may seem very difficult to do, because it is, but overcoming through
your own personal growth will make you stronger and wiser person because of
your willingness to conquer adversity in your personal life and marriage. You
can overcome! We've done it and many other spouses of alcoholics have done it
hope that you make good use of our healing materials that we have carefully
put together by putting the strategies and guidance to work in your personal
life and marriage. It is very possible to learn to live with and love the
alcoholic in your life, without "it" making YOU go crazy.
addiction steal another minute of your day! Start
Taking Care of You Now!
those who have purchased our ebooks or books on alcoholism
(What others have to say about our books and other reading materials on
I LOVE YOUR column and I have
your book. I thought I was detaching but after reading today I
realize I have a long ways to go...
Hi Angie n
Frank, this book is
really helpful for me. now it is easy for me to understand my husband
and his alcohol problem. i will try my best to be calm n
patient while his drinking n give him all my love n
support.......................you guys are doing great job. keep it
up. God bless you. thanx.
I downloaded your ebook How to
Detach... Info has been very helpful! Thanks for your time &
thanks for all the info!
this isn't so much a request for marriage guidance, but a thank you for
this website (Heaven Ministries).
It has answered questions that have remained unanswered for me for
a long time and very few people actually understand that I'm not mad to
stay with my husband who's an alcoholic binge drinker. I am a
Christian and love my husband. We need more articles of this type,
as opposed to 'get rid' and move on advice. Anyway, thanks again you
have really encouraged me and given me hope.
Angie Lewis's book gives insight into the mind of
an alcoholic and the chaos that ensues. I truly believe that most humans are
touched by either alcohol or an alcoholic at some point in our lives. This
book is a great resource and I encourage those who have authority to place
this book where many can draw from the experience, wisdom, and ministry that
Angie and her husband offer. (Review of Angie's book, The
Hi Angie. I read all of the articles on your
website on addiction in marriage. I came across it via google and it
gave me hope, as in my heart I know I didn't marry the wrong person, even
though people on the outside would try and say different. Too many
people give advice to 'jump ship', but I know divorce has it's own
inherent problems. I have learnt so many strategies for living life in
peace, no matter what the circumstances. It means a lot to me to have
you and your husband praying for my husband and marriage. I
look forward to reading more on your website and going back to the
material when I need a little encouragement!
Yesterday morning, I remembered I had purchased
your book “The
Alcoholism Trap”. We sat down and read it aloud to each other.
Both of us found so much comfort in your words and the bible verses. You
are right…only God can delivery Jim. Thank you
so much for the strength in your words!
I know the battle is not won and there is a long road and lifetime commitment
involved. But God is here! And your book helped us to realize
that. Thank you, Angela! And God bless you and your ministry! G.M
want to thank you Angie for your transparency and
for your article “Overcoming Addiction”.
I am addict. Until Friday I was drug free for a
year. Much of what you wrote was very true for me in
Last night I prayed and sought Gods will about this,
but I had so many thoughts flooding my head I
couldn’t think and went to bed..
I awoke and began reading your page after some
brief testimony and direction in addictions have led
a few things.
God did not give us a Spirit of timidity, but a
spirit of power, of love and self-discipline."
2 Timothy 1:7
2.All scripture is God-breathed and is useful for
teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in
righteousness." 2 Timothy 3:15-16
contacted you a couple years ago regarding my
soon-to-be husband who had a drinking problem. A
lot has happened since then…we did get married and
for awhile he seemed to do better… for awhile.
Jim even struck out on his own and bought out a
business and has been seeing success! But things
started spiraling downhill awhile ago to the point
where I was questioning my faith and God’s
“unwillingness” to help. Jim was changing
and so was I. Neither of us for the better.
Last week, I finally admitted to myself that my
husband was an alcoholic (previously, I would admit he
had a problem…but never admitted to anyone but
myself that he was an alcoholic) and that it was time
that I took responsibility for my actions as his
enabler. I journaled my thoughts and prayed
again for the strength to step back from his addiction
and be given the wisdom to know the difference between
enabling and being a supportive wife.
Sunday night, two days after my own admission, I got a
call at work from my husband asking for help. He
had hit his personal rock bottom. I was glad
that with all we’d been through that he still knew
he could count on me when the time came. I
picked Jim up and in tears he told me that he was an
alcoholic and he needed help with his recovery.
Yesterday morning, I remembered I had purchased your
Alcoholism Trap”. We sat down and read it
aloud to each other. Both of us found so much
comfort in your words and the bible verses. You
are right…only God can delivery Jim. And I
believe that God has been trying to tell him for some
time that he needed to make the change. But it
took Him to grab Jim by the scruff of the neck on
Sunday and say “Son! Enough!” for Jim to not
only hear but to listen to his Father. Thank you
so much for the strength in your words!