Is Important For Marriage?
Have you taken the time to be there for your
spouse? Some of you reading this may be thinking, ďHe hasnít taken
the time to be a husband, why should I put in any special effort?Ē
ďShe has rejected me for two weeks. Iím not going to do
anything extra around the house for her.Ē But we do have to put in
special effort if we truly want to be there for each other.
Marriage is certainly not about keeping score. It is about giving
of ourselves freely whenever we have the chance to do so.
A wife and mother who works out of the home all
day, and then comes home, cooks, cleans, and tends to the children,
isnít going to have much time for her husband, thatís for sure. So
what can she do? A good
starting point is for couples to decide together where their priorities
lie. What is important?
How is your marriage doing in the pleasure
department? Do you have the time and energy to make love to each other,
or is it too late and youíre tired? What about the intimacy
department? Do you and your spouse ever have the time to talk about your
feelings and have deep conversations with one another? Do you ever take
walks together, or go on a date to the movies or to dinner? Marriage
needs these things.
What about your health? Are you eating wholesome
home-cooked meals, staying energized throughout the day, or are you
eating too much fast foods and boxed foods and you feel tired and worn
out by mid-day? Eating
home-cooked wholesome meals everyday is far better for your health and
energy levels than anything else.
What about your spiritual health? Do you have time
for bible study and, or prayer together? Even if one spouse is not
available for devotions or bible study, do you still devote your own
time to prayer and spiritual study? Spiritual time together is very
important in marriage.
Do you have children? What about them? Do the
younger children go to an expensive daycare during the day? Do your
children spend needless time home alone after school? Are they staying
out of trouble, or are they hanging out with their friends doing who
knows what? Our children need us.
If couples have forsaken the blessings of marriage
and family over a wife and mother working just so they can make more
money, then maybe it is time to recheck and rethink a few priorities and
see what is important. Having a happy and satisfied marriage is
important, is it not? Having good health, spiritually and physically is
very important as well. And obviously the health and welfare of our
children is important too.
So what makes money such a high priority in our
lives? Is it fear of not having anything? Is it because most
Americanís are in debt and they have to work even harder to pay off
that debt? Are we managing
our marriage properly, or just managing the money we earn so we can have
more stuff? Couples work, labor and toil all day long and then donít
have time for each other. The sad thing is, they also do not have time
for God. What is important?