The Throw Away Spouse
by Angie Lewis
Have you thrown
your spouse away for a new one? Lots of people do it; in fact, half of
all marriages have at least one spouse that has been thrown away by the
other; tossed to the wind as if they were garbage.
Why are people throwing their spouse away? Are they giving up the
fight? Could it be they donít have the resolve to work on what they
have been blessed with?
perseverance and longsuffering. Marriage is a beautiful labor of love
that can be blessed and honored by both spouses if couples seek Godís
foundation for their support and covering.
In marriage, couples need to have a purpose and a plan because
there will be times when marriage will be difficult and satan will try
and attack through the cracks of vulnerability.
discouraged and throw your spouse away. Close all the cracks of
vulnerability and work on your marriage each and every day. I encourage
couples to take their stand against the devils plots and trust and
believe in God.
For instance, Emily
is greatly disturbed with the way John has been spending all of his
spare time wanting to help the young, beautiful single lady next door
with her house repairs. Jealous Emily seeks revenge and goes for a drive
with one of Johnís friends. When John finds out about Emilyís
rendezvous, he storms out of the house, taking the neighbor lady with
him. When John finally comes home it is after midnight and Emily is
gone. He finds a note from Emily that says she went to her motherís
house and that she wants a divorce.
What is readily
apparent here is that John is seeking attention from the next-door
neighbor lady, but what for? They both need to find out why John is
seeking attention outside of the marriage and work on fixing the
deficit. In almost all cases of a spouseís infidelity, emotional or
physical, it is the lack of the Spiritual Christ in that marriage. God
builds strong walls around marriages when couples put their trust in
Blessed is the man
who makes the Lord his trust. Psalm 40:4
If John and Emily
had sought out God for the guidance their marriage needed, John might
still be tempted to seek attention from other women but the chances are
he would pray about his situation first, and then God would lead him to
talk to his wife about his emotional imbalances that he is experiencing.
Emily would not feel the need to be vengeful and would do whatever it
takes to help John want to be with her rather than other women.
For this marriage
to survive, John desperately needs to persevere and pray about his
temptation of wanting to seek out the attention of other woman. John has
the ability to run away from tempting situations if only he would accept
Christ into his heart.
The most important
thing you can do for your marriage is to deny yourself whatever could
become a potential harm to your marriage and bring Godís loving truth
into your heart and mind, persevering toward your goals and purpose with
Your purpose at the
altar was to love and honor your spouse until death, right? I encourage
you to continue to honor that plan by your actions of faith and
longsuffering with the spouse you married.
I highly urge you to come into the light of Godís truth for
your marriage so you will not throw your spouse away into the wind.
For God who said,
ďLet light shine out of the darkness,Ē made his light shine in our
hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the
face of Christ. 2 Corinthians 4:6
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