The Throw Away Spouse
by Angie Lewis
Heaven Ministries


Have you thrown your spouse away for a new one? Lots of people do it; in fact, half of all marriages have at least one spouse that has been thrown away by the other; tossed to the wind as if they were garbage.  Why are people throwing their spouse away? Are they giving up the fight? Could it be they donít have the resolve to work on what they have been blessed with?

Marriage takes perseverance and longsuffering. Marriage is a beautiful labor of love that can be blessed and honored by both spouses if couples seek Godís foundation for their support and covering.  In marriage, couples need to have a purpose and a plan because there will be times when marriage will be difficult and satan will try and attack through the cracks of vulnerability.

Donít get discouraged and throw your spouse away. Close all the cracks of vulnerability and work on your marriage each and every day. I encourage couples to take their stand against the devils plots and trust and believe in God. 

For instance, Emily is greatly disturbed with the way John has been spending all of his spare time wanting to help the young, beautiful single lady next door with her house repairs. Jealous Emily seeks revenge and goes for a drive with one of Johnís friends. When John finds out about Emilyís rendezvous, he storms out of the house, taking the neighbor lady with him. When John finally comes home it is after midnight and Emily is gone. He finds a note from Emily that says she went to her motherís house and that she wants a divorce.

What is readily apparent here is that John is seeking attention from the next-door neighbor lady, but what for? They both need to find out why John is seeking attention outside of the marriage and work on fixing the deficit. In almost all cases of a spouseís infidelity, emotional or physical, it is the lack of the Spiritual Christ in that marriage. God builds strong walls around marriages when couples put their trust in Him.

Blessed is the man who makes the Lord his trust. Psalm 40:4

If John and Emily had sought out God for the guidance their marriage needed, John might still be tempted to seek attention from other women but the chances are he would pray about his situation first, and then God would lead him to talk to his wife about his emotional imbalances that he is experiencing. Emily would not feel the need to be vengeful and would do whatever it takes to help John want to be with her rather than other women. 

For this marriage to survive, John desperately needs to persevere and pray about his temptation of wanting to seek out the attention of other woman. John has the ability to run away from tempting situations if only he would accept Christ into his heart.

The most important thing you can do for your marriage is to deny yourself whatever could become a potential harm to your marriage and bring Godís loving truth into your heart and mind, persevering toward your goals and purpose with your spouse.

Your purpose at the altar was to love and honor your spouse until death, right? I encourage you to continue to honor that plan by your actions of faith and longsuffering with the spouse you married.  I highly urge you to come into the light of Godís truth for your marriage so you will not throw your spouse away into the wind.


For God who said, ďLet light shine out of the darkness,Ē made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Christ. 2 Corinthians 4:6


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