How to Protect Your Marriage From Lust Temptations

 Heaven Ministries ~ Marriage Healing Ministry

Protecting our marriage from the world is a serious matter and one that both husband and wife need to work on. There are people in the world who simply do not care if you are married or not. They may try to seduce your spouse just for the thrill of it. Ungodly behavior happens every day and everywhere in society. You might be at work, kids soccer game, at the park, or simply doing your daily errands when someone tries to seduce you. What are you going to do about it?

So how do a husband and wife protect themselves from prying eyes, emotional infidelity, lustful stares, flirtatious advances and those who simply wish to break apart what God joined together as one flesh? By being committed to your marriage!

Commitment is not that difficult once we truly understand how God intends marriage to be.  Marriage is a union that belongs to God and couples should be trying to protect the sanctity of their marriage every single day by their commitment to each other. The “one flesh” of marriage is a beautiful aspect of marriage that should bond two people physically, emotionally and spiritually. This bond should be so strong that nothing can come between you and the man or woman you married. Without commitment the marriage will have many problems and probably not last.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

How will you know if you are committed or not? Well, anytime we really are not committed in our heart about something we do things that do not protect our beliefs. Commitment takes belief in the upright moral values of marriage. One way we allow the world to enter into our marriage is by our own actions. We have to stop and take a look at ourselves. What is our demeanor like? How do we dress in public? How do we behave towards the opposite sex?

What are we showing others when we wear short-shorts, tight jeans, low cut blouses and miniskirts in public? Who are we trying to please, God or ourselves?  Modesty is a wonderful virtue; your husband will totally appreciate you for your modesty.  It shows him that you care about him and the one flesh of marriage. A woman who dresses modestly is still going to have men look at her, but she is not saying that she is available—big difference here.

How we carry ourselves also shows a lot about how much our marriage means to us. If we are doing something that we shouldn’t be doing, such as flirting and staring that says to the world that we are available, and the ring on our finger will not mean a hill of beans. So if we truly want to be committed to our marriage we need to watch how we carry ourselves around the opposite sex and how we dress. This goes for the guys too.

I think it would be safe to say that ninety percent of the ungodliness that is brought into  marriage is done by us!  Because we are human we will err occasionally but once we know the truth we should be trying to live our marriage for God, not for ourselves.

Married people should practice self-control in all areas of their life and if they accidentally err by looking at someone lustfully or flirting with the opposite sex, they should remove themselves from the temptation before it goes any further! Seriously folks, why stay in a place where you will succumb to lustful temptations? Why continue harming your spirit or marriage over something you know is nothing.

God helps us to have commitment in our marriage. A lot of people don’t think they need God and they manage their marriage under their own understanding. But look what is happening to marriage today under our own understanding! We all NEED God to help us to protect our marriage. It is His wisdom, His Truths, and His Formula that keeps our marriage free from the world of lustful temptations. We have to protect our marriage from lust temptations every single day!

If we find ourselves in a situation where others are flirting with us we simply need to give the signal that we are NOT available. If they don’t get it then run—leave the place. We must turn away from situations that we know to be wrong or that will lead to what is wrong. We need to pray and ask God for wisdom and insight to help us with our temptations, so we can live His will for our marriage. God will give us the strength to just say no, to lustful temptations!

For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present age. (Titus 2:11-12)

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