How to Protect Your Marriage From Lust Temptations
Protecting our marriage from the world is a serious
matter and one that both husband and wife need to work on. There are
people in the world who simply do not care if you are married or not.
They may try to seduce your spouse just for the thrill of it. Ungodly
behavior happens every day and everywhere in society. You might be at
work, kids soccer game, at the park, or simply doing your daily errands
when someone tries to seduce you. What are you going to do about it?
So how do a husband and wife protect themselves
from prying eyes, emotional infidelity, lustful stares, flirtatious
advances and those who simply wish to break apart what God joined
together as one flesh? By being committed to your marriage!
Commitment is not that difficult once we truly
understand how God intends marriage to be. Marriage is a union that belongs to God and couples should be
trying to protect the sanctity of their marriage every single day by
their commitment to each other. The “one flesh” of marriage is a
beautiful aspect of marriage that should bond two people physically,
emotionally and spiritually. This bond should be so strong that nothing
can come between you and the man or woman you married. Without
commitment the marriage will have many problems and probably not last.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his
mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
How will you know if you are committed or not?
Well, anytime we really are not committed in our heart about something
we do things that do not protect our beliefs. Commitment takes belief in
the upright moral values of marriage. One way we allow the world to
enter into our marriage is by our own actions. We have to stop and take
a look at ourselves. What is our demeanor like? How do we dress in
public? How do we behave towards the opposite sex?
What are we showing others when we wear
short-shorts, tight jeans, low cut blouses and miniskirts in public? Who
are we trying to please, God or ourselves? Modesty
is a wonderful virtue; your husband will totally appreciate you for your
modesty. It shows him that
you care about him and the one flesh of marriage. A woman who dresses
modestly is still going to have men look at her, but she is not saying
that she is available—big difference here.
How we carry ourselves also shows a lot about how much our marriage means to us. If we are doing something that we shouldn’t be doing, such as flirting and staring that says to the world that we are available, and the ring on our finger will not mean a hill of beans. So if we truly want to be committed to our marriage we need to watch how we carry ourselves around the opposite sex and how we dress. This goes for the guys too.
I think it would be safe to say that ninety percent
of the ungodliness that is brought into marriage is done by us! Because
we are human we will err occasionally but once we know the truth we
should be trying to live our marriage for God, not for ourselves.
Married people should practice self-control in all
areas of their life and if they accidentally err by looking at someone
lustfully or flirting with the opposite sex, they should remove
themselves from the temptation before it goes any further! Seriously
folks, why stay in a place where you will succumb to lustful
temptations? Why continue harming your spirit or marriage over something
you know is nothing.
God helps us to have commitment in our marriage. A
lot of people don’t think they need God and they manage their marriage
under their own understanding. But look what is happening to marriage
today under our own understanding! We all NEED God to help us to protect
our marriage. It is His wisdom, His Truths, and His Formula that keeps
our marriage free from the world of lustful temptations. We have to
protect our marriage from lust temptations every single day!
If we find ourselves in a situation where others
are flirting with us we simply need to give the signal that we are NOT
available. If they don’t get it then run—leave the place. We must
turn away from situations that we know to be wrong or that will lead to
what is wrong. We need to pray and ask God for wisdom and insight to
help us with our temptations, so we can live His will for our marriage.
God will give us the strength to just say no, to lustful temptations!
For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath
appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly
lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present
age. (Titus 2:11-12)
Is it okay for a spouse to be flirty and touchy
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