Sober and Stay Sober For Good!
2010 Heaven Ministries - Healing Ministry
For many alcoholics sobriety comes and goes, and
this is because we have to want to get sober for ourselves, not our
loved ones. It's a nice gesture to get sober for family, but eventually
sobriety does not hold up on someone else's convictions. The alcoholic
must be convicted in their own heart and mind to quit drinking and to
stay sober for good.
Don't confuse conviction with "will
power". Alcoholism is an insidious sickness and quitting by ones
own will power is impossible because addiction is a powerful force that
takes hold of a person spiritually, emotionally and physically and does
not let go without the help of God intervening.
The number one reason that alcoholics and drug
addicts do not stay clean and sober is because they do not humble their
past lives to God in the first place. God doesn't make alcoholics. We
choose that for ourselves. God is our healer. Coming out
of the traps of alcoholism is a rebirth process with a new attitude of
the heart and mind. If there is no rebirth, alcoholism remains attached
to the body in every aspect.
Getting sober and staying sober takes willingness
from the alcoholic but takes God's intervention for sobriety. There are
three main aspects of alcoholism that need attention and healing; they
are emotional, physical and spiritual. If one of these areas is not
healthy, the chances of the alcoholic drinking again are much higher.
You can get sober and stay sober for good by getting healthy in all
three of these areas.
For the Spouse of the Alcoholic
Most spouses of alcoholics are also unhealthy
emotionally and spiritually because they allow themselves to take
responsibility for the behaviors of the alcoholic. This is a classic
form of enabling. What happens is they consume their own daily lives
with what the alcoholic is doing rather than to take care of themselves.
If a loved one becomes too obsessed over the behaviors of the alcoholic
they will eventually feel unable to cope in the marriage.
We talk about how spouses of alcoholics can deal
with this in our ebook How
to Detach From an Alcoholic Spouse. Spouses of alcoholics can learn to emotionally detach
from the alcoholic, while still living in the same home and even
becoming more loving people! It is important to understand that the more
you consume yourself with the alcoholic, the more the alcoholic will
hang onto the addiction. The alcoholic feeds on all of the negative
attention, not only that but they like that you are taking
responsibility for the addiction so they can continue drinking.
It is unbelievable how when you change through
taking care of you, the alcoholic also changesóchanges themselves and
begins to realize they have a drinking problem. Only when you give the
addiction back to the alcoholic will they take it upon themselves to get
sober and stay sober for good!