Adultery Is Knowing You Are Committing Adultery
How do we go about defining adultery except to say
that it is morally wrong and it is a sin according to God? When we live
our lives as if there is no God there will be consequences. I donít
say this scripture does. Many people donít stop to realize that they
create negative consequences in their life by making the wrong choices.
Whole marriages and families are ruined by one adulterous act.
This is why Jesus said to NOT even look at another with feelings
of lust because our attitude of lust will lead to adultery eventually.
An example of this is seen in how we live our
marriage. Instead of living
our marriage by the One who created it, many of us manage our marriage
through our own understanding. And that is why we donít see the
blessings! Today there are
so many people suffering from adulterous marriages and they just donít
get it! They donít understand why they are suffering? Many of these
marriages suffer greatly under the affects of adultery by a spouse. When
a spouse commits adultery it takes a forgiving heart to get past the
hurt and pain that it can cause.
There are three ways adultery can be defined in a
marriage. The number one way is when a spouse has sex with another
person other than who they are married to.
The second way, which most people donít know about, is by
remarriage when their first marriage spouse is still living.
Scripture is very clear on this; it is stated four different
times in the bible. Some Christians are living in adultery because they
remarried while their first spouse still lives.
Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth
another committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away
from her husband committeth adultery. (Luke 16:18)
And thirdly when two people are in a defacto
cohabitation marriage and one has sex with someone outside of this
defacto marriage. According to God two people who live together and are
having sex are married. You may not be married to the state
because there is no record of the marriage, but God sees the record of
your marriage in the way you live. Look at Adam and Eve! Did they have a
record of their marriage? God considers a man and a woman married when
they (1.) leave parents. (2.) promise to each other by living together,
and (3.) by consummation of the relationship.
If we want to save our marriage there is only one
thing we must do when a spouse commits the sin of adultery. We must make
God the most important part of our life so we can have a forgiving
heart. The truth is it is not a new spouse we need when our spouse
commits adultery; itís a new perspective on life. We need to receive a
new heart and mind. The bottom line is we need healed!! And God is
our healer! A new spouse canít heal our soul. Only God can wipe
away our past, purify our minds and make us new people in Christ for
righteous and peaceful living in the kingdom of heaven.
How many of us choose to live our marriage under
our own wisdom and understanding and then expect to be forgiven by
Christís loving grace for making wrong lifestyle choices according to
that understanding? I mean think about this. If we donít have the
faith to live as Christ-ones then who are we living for? Adultery is a
sin to God and sincere repentance is a must so we can be forgiven.
And forgiveness only comes when we stop living the sin of adultery!
The point is we have to consciously and willingly
put in the effort to walk with God in His kingdom of heaven by
discontinuing the adultery. We should not minimize sin in our lives, or
justify reasons why God wonít mind if we do something that leads to
sin or is sinful behavior. We need to stop deceiving ourselves!
Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit
the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor
idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of
themselves with mankind, not thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor
revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. (1
I truly donít know what else to say about
adultery except look at your life and see where you may have erred. God
gives us free will to do as we please now because he wants us to choose
Him over our desires. He wants us to choose Him over our desire to be
unfaithful in our marriage; He wants us to choose Him over the pleasures
and desires of this world. Only when we die to these things and choose
God will we be free from sins hold on us and be the whole and happy
people God created us to be. We need to find our way back on the path
that leads to God! There is no other way.
I believe full-heartedly that to make the right
choices means waiting on God to guide us in His wisdom. We have to put
our lives in His hands, which means we NEED to walk in faith and in
Godly wisdom and understanding, and that means we may have to suffer
for doing what is right. God loves us greatly and wants us to choose
Him, but that does not mean we will never suffer again. On the contrary
it is through our suffering that we grow more faithful and wise in Him.
Donít let sin take a hold of your life, give your burdens to God and
let Him heal your soul!
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