on Divorce and Remarriage: Husband Tricked
Divorce According To God and The Sanctity of Marriage
God considers marriage
sanctified even if there is only one believing spouse. This does not necessarily
mean however that the wife can save her husband or the husband can save his wife. It means
that through the relationship, the husband or wife may come to be a
believer and become saved on his or her own. So the wife should not
divorce her husband and the husband should not divorce his wife.
But the believing husband or wife can certainly be a good example to the
unbelieving spouse and influence them to Jesus Christ.
But the believing husband or wife can certainly be a good example to the unbelieving spouse and influence them to Jesus Christ.
If any brother has a wife who is
not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce
her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer
and he is willing to live with her, She must not divorce him. For the
unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the
unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:12-14 NIV)
Sometimes stubborn couples cannot compromise with each other and they fight constantly. This happens because neither one of them is willing to give in - both the husband and wife are controlling and demanding of each other. When neither partner submits, usually chaos ensues within the boundaries of that marriage. I would tend to believe that this is not a Christian marriage at all, but a worldly marriage based upon selfishness.
If a husband or wife wants to
leave the marriage and insists on a divorce because they are too selfish
to reconcile their differences, God has instructions for that too.
But if the unbeliever leaves,
let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in
such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How
do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know,
husband, whether you will save your wife? (1 Corinthians 7:15, 16 NIV)
This doesn’t mean to
automatically go get a divorce. God prefers that couples work through
their problems and remain married. This verse is so often misunderstood to
be a loophole for divorce. It does not even say anything about divorce! If
a spouse insists on leaving, what can you do? God does not want the
believing spouse to undermine their faith while trying to preserve the
marriage with an unbeliever – that would be worse than separation.
Now, if a wife or husband
divorce and remarry someone else, according to scripture, they will be
committing adultery. The reason is simple – they are still married to
their first husband or wife.
The bottom line is, Jesus
focused on marriage rather than divorce. God intends marriage to be
permanent and gives four good reasons why. (Matthew
A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. In my judgment she is happier if she stays as she is – and I think I too have the Sprit of God.
(1 Corinthians 7:39,40 NIV)
…And a husband must not divorce his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:11 NIV)