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Should
A Wife/Mother Work Out
of the Home or Not?
Advantages and
Disadvantages
Many
couples believe they need a second income to meet the demands of the
many debts they have accumulated and owe.
Some mothers wish they didn't have to send their babies off to day
care while she goes off to work. But the family budget apparently
NEEDS the additional income. But what if it didn't? What if a woman
wanted to stay home and put her energies towards being productive in
the home? Is this possible?
What
stuff, amenities, luxuries, and entertainment can a household do
without? How can couples rearrange and prioritize the budget
better so a wife and mother can be home with her children and be there
for her husband when he comes home?
Let's look
at the advantages and disadvantages of a wife/mother working out of
the home.
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Advantages
Mom Stays
home
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Disadvantages
Mom Works
|
| mom
shares in her children's growth, bonds to children, tighter
knit family life |
children
in day care/babysitter - more colds and flu's, cost money,
children not bonded with mom, insecure |
| home
when husband comes home, to greet him, talk, and cook |
not
home to greet, talk, cook for husband. |
| less
stressful |
more
stressful |
|
nutritious
meals
(healthier)
|
TV
dinners, fast food restaurants, other
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| children
happier and more content, feel secure and loved |
children
home alone after school, feel unloved, unwanted, get into
trouble. (latchkey kids) |
| tidy
and organized home |
untidy,
disorganized, cluttered, dirty home |
| more
money - this is the only advantage |
sexual
advances from other men/office politics |
Do you have anything
you would like to add to this chart? From what I can come up with so
far it looks like the only advantage to a wife/mom working out of the
home is for the extra money it brings in.
Ask you self this: Does
your household "really" need the extra money? Would having
the extra money make you want to buy more things you really do not
need? Just something to think about.
On the other side of
the coin, many women today work in pursuit of feeding the ego -- to be
somebody! They feel they are not special or that they don't have an
identity apart from their husband if they do not do something for them
selves, away from husband and children. But this is so untrue!
Society has truly lost
its values when it looks for reasons to devalue the housewife/mom. But
all we have to do is look at all the advantages that a housewife
brings to the home to see how valued she really is! If women were
staying home and doing the job God intended for them to do I truly
believe the world would be a better place.
Our children need us!
Let's not deprive them of the special bond a mother and child can
share. This is so very important in life.
Women are like glue,
they hold everything together so nothing falls apart. When a
wife/mother isn't home what happens? Everything falls apart. Wouldn't
you rather be glue in your own home taking care of your own man and
kids, rather than work for another man or woman while someone else is
raising your children?
Bottom line: If a woman
wants to stay home and spend her energies being productive and useful
for her family more power to her! If she feels the need to work
and she can do it without it compromising and sacrificing
responsibilities of her family then more power to her.
It is so great when a
woman feels good about her self while being productive for her family.
She is there for her family, fulfilling the purpose God intended for
her to do!
Moms
Working From Home!
The other advantage to
a wife and mother staying home is she can also work from home right
from her computer!! There are many typing, writing, graphic design,
website design, computer tech, and medical transcriptions jobs
(careers), etc, that can be worked right from home over the Internet.
For a look at some of
these work at home opportunities, here are some great links.
Christian Work At Home
Moms
http://www.cwahm.com/
Christian
Freelance jobs
The
Mom Team
Home
Based Mommy
Pro
Card International
Home
Typers
This is just a tiny
fraction of the work from home jobs out there. Be careful many work
from home jobs are scams and some aren't. As with anything you need to
be discerning in your search and do your homework and don't ever give
money up front.
The ones I have chosen
here do not seem like scams but you never know. You can't judge a book
by its cover, as the saying goes. ;o)
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6
Ways To Bring Romance Back
Into Your Marriage
1. Try and
remember how it was when you were first married. What did you do to
woo your husband/wife? Do it again!
Write down
all the things you really liked about your spouse and what attracted
you to him or her from when you were first married. Never forget the
person you married is still that same person. Changes do take place as
we get older and mature, but couples who grow spiritually and mentally
together instead of apart have better marriages.
2. Don't
feel intimidated to try something different from your usual routine.
Couples get so caught up in their daily routines that they miss out on
the special opportunities to add a little spunk into their marriage.
Go
bowling, roller-skating, ice-skating, see a movie, or walk in the
mall. Anything! Just doing something together out of the ordinary that
will be fun and relaxing for the both of you plus will bring you
closer together.
3. Take
the weekend off and go somewhere romantic. Snow anyone? You don't
necessarily need to know how to ski to enjoy the amenities and beauty
of a ski lodge. Lounge in the Jacuzzi, go sledding, take long walks
outdoors, or sit by the fire talking about anything but work and home
life.
Take a
trip to a lake in your area and stay overnight in a cabin. Go fishing
with your husband and eat by the campfire.
4. Take a
three day spiritual/meditation retreat together. This will do wonders
for the body, mind and soul. it will give you the relaxation you need
to refresh your whole outlook on life.
5. Write
down all the things you love about your husband/wife and share your
thoughts with each other. Sometimes we tend to take our spouse
for granted and when this happens we forget about all the things we
love about them. By doing this fun and simple exercise you will see
how it can bring the romance back. Little reminders that your
husband/wife is loved and wanted will make them feel good about
themselves.
6. Make up
your own coupon booklet on the computer and give it to your
husband/wife. In the coupon booklet for an example a coupon might
read, "This coupon good for a 1/2 hour back rub." The
next coupon might read, "Coupon good for 20 minute foot
massage." Doing these little things for your spouse brings
couples closer together.
Happy
Romancing!
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Lentil
Lasagna Recipe
If you
aren't a vegetarian, you might read the title of this lasagna, and
think, ugh. That's what I thought the first time I made this
vegetarian dish. But it turns out it is really good. The good news is
it is good for you too!!
This is a family recipe that you will not find anywhere else. My
family is not vegetarians but we still try and add healthful grains,
beans, peas, and brown rice into our dishes when appropriate. Believe
me, you will like lentil lasagna unless you don't like lentils and
that's another story all together.
This dish
is not as difficult to make as it seems. I find that by preparing
everything ahead of time it makes the preparation much easier.
Ingredients
1-lb
Lasagna noodles
1- lb Lentils
16 oz Ricotta Cheese
1 egg
8 oz mozzarella cheese
8 oz mild cheddar cheese
4 oz Parmesan cheese
1-1b Roma Tomato's
4 Cloves garlic
Extra Virgin Olive oil
Basil and Oregano
Sea salt.
Preparation
1. Prepare
lentils according to package
directions, drain and set aside.
2. Heat 4
or 5 tablespoons olive oil in sauce pan add the 4 cloves of garlic,
sauté until lightly golden in color. Add chopped Roma tomato's, lower
heat and simmer covered for 5 minutes. Add 12 oz can of tomato sauce,
2 tablespoons Basil, 1 teaspoon of Oregano and salt to taste. Cook
covered on med low for 5 minutes.
3. Add 1 cup of
the tomato sauce to the lentils with salt and pepper to taste.
3. Prepare
lasagna noodles according to
package directions. Add a few tablespoons of oil to the noodles or
keep in cold water so they will not stick together, Set aside.
4. In small
mixing bowel mix Ricotta cheese and egg, set aside
5. Grate your
three cheeses. Have a good working table with all your preparation
dishes in front of you. Lentils, noodles, Ricotta, and three cheeses.
Okay, here we go, lets make lentil lasagna.
Make
and Bake
6. Grab your
baking dish and lightly grease the bottom. Add 2 or 3 ladles of sauce
to the bottom of the baking dish. Line the bottom with lasagna
noodles, cover noodles with some of the lentils, sauce, ricotta, and
some of the cheeses. Do this until all the ingredients are used up. Be
sure to have enough cheeses left over for the top. Cover and bake for
35 minutes on 350 degrees.
7. Don't tell
your family its lentils -- eat and enjoy! Serve with a crusty loaf of
Italian bread and a big Romaine lettuce salad.
Happy Eating!!
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