To Be A Good Spouse by Being Healthy in Mind and Body
The title to this article is very true. The better
you feel about your life, the better spouse you will be. The best way to
be a good spouse is to take care of you first. You are your best friend
when it comes to your health and emotional well-being--physically,
mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Are you taking care of you? Last
week I talked to several different women who were experiencing health
difficulties like bipolar syndrome, addiction, diabetes, and heart
These were young women only in their twenties,
thirties and forties! They went on to tell me that these health issues
are affecting their marriage in a negative way.
It doesnít really matter what the health condition is. It can
be irritable bowel syndrome or it can be co-dependence issues. If you
are not healthy physically, spiritually, or emotionally it will take a
toll on your marriage.
How can we be good to others when we canít even
be good to ourselves? We have to take care of our health so we can be
positive, joyful, and productive people for our spouse. No one likes to
be around someone who is physically, mentally or emotionally unwell. And
no one is surely going to take the steps to make you well but you!
So what can you do? You can do the research about a
particular illness you may have been diagnosed with; you can look for
alternative therapies to your health; you can talk with a nutritionist
about your health instead of a medical doctor; you can cleanse your
entire system of toxins; you can find a good trustworthy friend that you
can confide in about your mental health; and you can ask accept God into
your life and allow Him to give you hope, wisdom, and knowledge.
Did you know that 60% of people who are diagnosed
with bipolar syndrome really donít have bipolar syndrome? Now thatís
scary. Whatís even scarier is that attention deficient disorders,
bipolar, and hypoglycemia mimic many of the same symptoms. If I were
diagnosed with any health condition I would take a careful look into
what I am eating and drinking on a daily basis.
1. How often do you do physical activity? Never,
sometimes, or often
If you said often, then that is great! Now just
start eating a more natural diet. That means, if it is not a natural,
whole food then simply donít eat it. Start cooking more if you donít
already, and limit your meat intake to about two times a week. The body
does not need meat on a regular basis. As a matter of fact, protein is
one of the easiest vitamins to get because it is in so many of our
2. How often do you eat packaged processed food
items? Rarely, sometimes, or often
If you said rarely, then thatís great too. But if
you said often, then I have to ask, why? There are limited nutrients in
processed packaged foods. Refined flour is whatís making people sick
with sugar spikes, (diabetes), gluten intolerance, allergies, and IBS
symptoms. You would be so much healthier just by making or buying whole
wheat bread and never eating another processed package food product.
3. How often do you eat live, raw food, such as
fruits, fruit juicing, sprouts, dark greens, or cruciferous vegetables
such as broccoli, cabbage or kale? Rarely, sometimes, or often
If you said
often, then congratulations. You are doing your body and mind good. But
if you said rarely than it might be a good idea to start incorporating
more of these excellent nutritious filled foods into your diet on a
daily basis. If you cook your vegetables, always be sure to only lightly
steam. Cooked vegetables do not retain the vitamins and minerals that
your body needs.
5. Would you say that you are a generally happy
person? Yes, maybe, or no
I hope you said yes! But if you said no, then it is
time to do something about that. When
we donít feel good about ourselves, or our life it is usually because
we feel as if our life is in a standstill and without purpose or reason.
Or maybe we feel useless or unhappy in our marriage.
But let me tell you this. Everyone has a purpose in
this life, to do and be the best they can be, through Christ. We donít
try to be the best we can through ourselves but what Christ blesses us
with. God gives us wisdom, knowledge and love and our relationship with
Him is what makes us happy. When you are happy that happiness
will reflect back onto others in positive and productive ways.
Jesus said, ďUntil now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.Ē (John 16:24)