Why It’s Important To Respect Your
Copyright 2009 - Heaven Ministries - Angie Lewis
As a husband your purpose in marriage is to respect
your wife, even when you don’t feel like it. When a man gets
married he takes on the added responsibilities of marriage, which
include being respectful and caring. A husband is to love his wife as he
would love himself.
In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives
as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no
one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as
Christ does the church. (Ephesians 5:28-29)
He FEEDS and CARES for it just like Christ does the
church? This scriptural analogy here is showing husbands “how to love
their wives” – in the same way Christ would feed and care for his
church. Wow! It is a big responsibility and sometimes a challenging one
at that, but God designed husbands for this purpose in marriage.
If a husband is not respecting his wife in the way
he should, then could it be because he is not respecting himself?
Usually this means a husband is mistreating himself somehow with too
much work, or too much womanizing, or too much pornography, or too much
drugs, or too much alcohol, or too much resentment, too much
selfishness, too much control over his wife, or too much bitterness from
All of these things would keep a husband from truly
respecting and caring for his wife properly. If we don’t love
ourselves, how can we love another?
Respect is a principle that supports and sustains
many aspects of marriage. If a husband respects and regards his wife
with high esteem it will make her feel good about her role as a woman
and of being his wife. Marriage will undoubtedly have its troubles, but
if you remember the principle “to treat your wife the way you would
like to be treated” then most marriage problems can be resolved
amicably before they get out of hand.
If a husband totally disregards his purpose to love
his wife because he disrespects himself then he will need inner healing
before he can learn to love and respect his wife properly – the way
God intended for a man to love his wife. Respect is an important
component of marriage, which keeps it flourishing with abundance no
matter what issues may arise.
When a woman gets married she now has a new
responsibility, to love and respect her husband, even when she
doesn’t feel like it. Your
whole purpose as a wife is to be the loving woman to your man that God
wants you to be. Marriage is not just about a wife’s feelings and what
she wants and needs, but what both husband and wife want and need as a
whole and together in the marriage!
The principle I am just about to tell you should be
posted on every mirror and refrigerator in a married couples home so
they don’t forget it. Here is a great and awesome principle for your
marriage. If you study it, remember it, and apply it into your marriage,
you will understand and regard the principle of respect with more
“Marriage is not about two separate individuals
doing their own thing, but about two intertwined individuals working
together to be one whole. A
wife is her husband’s other half and a husband is his wife’s other
half. Together a husband and a wife create “one flesh” in the
For this reason a man will leave his father and
mother and be united to his wife, and they will become “one flesh”.
A wife should respect the leadership position of
her husband, encouraging him to become all that he can be for the
marriage and to God. A husband should love and care for his wife in the
same way he would care for himself, encouraging her to become all that
she can be for the marriage and to God. God wants us to live righteously
by having a right relationship with Him first, so we can have a right
relationship with the person we married.
Angie has written two wisdom filled books regarding
this subject. Love
The Woman You Married and Love
The Man You Married. Both of these books are available as instant
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