5 Biblical Aspects You Should Know
I talk a lot about
forgiveness in marriage and relationships. Why? Because without
forgiving those who have wronged us, we will never be able to forget the
wrong either. And when I say, "forget", I mean in the sense
that the wrong will never be brought up again to hurt or otherwise abuse
our spouse with.
1. Forgiveness is the first step in
"But I tell you that anyone who divorces his
wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an
adulteress, and anyone who married the divorced woman commits
adultery." Matthew 5:32
Divorce is hurtful and destructive and God intends
for marriage to be a lifetime commitment. (Genesis 2:24). Couples should
never consider divorce an option for solving marital problems, and
Jesus said that divorce was not permissible except
for unfaithfulness, but...this does not mean, and is not saying that a
spouse should automatically get a divorce because a spouse commits
The word translated "unfaithfulness"
means LIVING in a sexually immoral lifestyle, not a repented act of
adultery. There is a BIG difference here between a continual lifestyle
of sexual sin and a one-time affair.
Those who have found their spouse to be unfaithful
should make every effort to forgive and restore their marriage.
2. God does not forgive those who do not forgive
"For if you forgive men when they sin against
you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not
forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."
Matthew 6: 14-15
The simple truth here is that when we don't
forgive others, we are denying our common ground as sinners in need of
God's forgiveness. We all need to be forgiven at times, and we are all
When we ask for forgiveness from God and others,
we should ask ourselves, "Have I forgiven the people who have
wronged me?" It is all about putting ourselves in their shoes. We
can't honestly expect to be forgiven when we can't seem to forgive
Do you need to forgive your spouse? Does your
spouse need to forgive you? Submit to one another through forgiveness
and restore the trust and respect that may have been misplaced.
3. True forgiveness is found only from having
faith in Jesus Christ
True forgiveness is found only from having faith
in Jesus? Really?
"If you forgive anyone his sins, they are
forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven." John
In the above scripture Jesus was giving the
disciples their Spirit-powered and Spirit-guided mission, which was to
teach the good news about Jesus so people's sins might be forgiven.
But the disciples did not have the power to
forgive sins, but Jesus gave them the opportunity of telling new
believers that their sins have been forgiven because they had ACCEPTED
Jesus' message. Because of their belief in Jesus, they were given the
power within them to FORGIVE!
All believers have this same opportunity today! We
can announce the forgiveness of sins with certainty when we ourselves
have found repentance and faith in Christ. Wow!
4. Forgiveness will lead to change of heart
For those of you who have had a spouse who
committed adultery, the bible says this:
The Pharisee's brought in a woman caught in the
act of adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus,
"Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law
Moses commanded us to stone such a woman. Now what do you say?
Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground
with his finger. When they kept questioning him, he straightened up and
said to them, "If any of you are without sin, let him be the first
to throw a stone at her."
At this, those who heard began to go away one at a
time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman
still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, "Woman,
where are they? Has no one condemned you?
"No one sir," she said.
"Then neither do I condemn you," Jesus
declared. "Go now and leave your life of sin." John 8:3-11
Jesus is simply saying that he will forgive us
when we have faith enough in him to turn our life around and sin no
This is an excellent scripture! When Jesus said
that only a sinless person could throw the first stone, he was actually
highlighting several important areas in our own lives that we need to
watch out for, such as forgiving others, showing compassion, and not to
judge others who have sinned.
5. Forgiveness involves both attitude and action
on our part
"Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave
room for God's wrath, for it is written" "It is mine to
avenge' I will repay, says the Lord. On the contrary: "if your
enemy is hungry, feed him' if he is thirsty, give him something to
drink. In doing this, you will be heap burning coals upon his
head." Romans 12:19-21
By giving an enemy a drink, we are not excusing
his misdeeds, but forgiving him and loving him despite of his sins.
Jesus Christ did this for us. This is called "detaching with
love", or Jesus called it, "turning the other cheek."
Forgiveness does involve a good attitude on our
part. Many times we find it too difficult to forgive. We just don't FEEL
very forgiving towards someone who has hurt us. It is at these times
that we must try to be kind towards him or her.
Being kind to people who have hurt us tends to
ease the hurt and makes us FEEL better towards them in our heart and
mind. Sometimes we have to do things we don't want to. But you will
discover that by doing kind things to those who have hurt us can
actually lead to our feelings changing for the good. ~~~~~
2006 Angie Lewis ~ Heaven Ministries
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