I keep reading in various articles and in marriage self-help books that the
reason a spouse cheats is because of something the other spouse did or didnít
do? But this is incorrect information. To blame one spouse for the sexual
indiscretions of the other only gets the cheater off the hook, so to speak. What
a web of deceit we can weave. Itís wrong folks.
Couples spend hundreds, and sometimes thousands of dollars listening to a
stranger tell them what is wrong with their marriage. But if the marriage does
not have the proper foundations established for it in the first place, none of
it matters! What is important is getting to the root of the issues facing
couples today in their marriage, not arguing over who is right or wrong.
Everyone originates from God and everyone is accountable to God for his or
her actions. The root of unfaithfulness in marriage has absolutely nothing to do
with who we are married to. It has to do with who we are as people.
What really causes a spouse to cheat is the lack of the spiritual Christ in
his or her life. Spiritual bankruptcy is the root of unfaithfulness to God and
to our spouse. Living a spiritual life and experiencing the power of Christ
tends to make people realize how important they really are, that is when morals
begin changing in that person for the good and the temptation to cheat goes away
from their heart and mind.
What causes a spouse to cheat is lack of morals Ė It takes a person of
upright character to withstand the temptations of society. If a person does not
trust in and believe in God they will follow what the world does. It is really
that simple. Sometimes a person will commit adultery even when they know it is
wrong. It is a lifestyle thing. Monkey see, monkey do.
If you have no faith you will live with no faith. If you think you are a
believer in Christ and are still cheating on your spouse, maybe it is time to
review your faith. Have you committed your life to Jesus Christ? Thatís the
question that needs answered? If you answered no, then you will live your life
under your own understanding of what you think, feel and believe, which
ultimately leads to sin.
[Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor
adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexuals offenders nor thieves nor the
greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the Kingdom of
God. 1 Corinthians 6: 9-11]
In the above scripture, Paul was describing the characteristics of
unbelievers. If you feel that you are a believer but continue in these practices
you will not inherit the Kingdom of God. Such people need to re-examine their
lives to see if they truly are believers in Christ Jesus.
In other words people are condemned not because of what they do not know, but
for what they do with what they know. If a person knows that adultery is a sin
and they still cheat on their spouse, then God will judge them. People violate
the very standards that they create for themselves. The standards of society are
sin. So if we live by that foundation for our marriage, what do you think is
going to happen?
If a man is not dedicated to his marriage and he has no principles to base
his marriage on then his commitment level will not mean much to him either, and
he will stray from the marriage bed. Itís that simple.
So next time you read that the cause of a spouseís infidelity is because of
the person they are married to, think again.
[He said to them, ďYou are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of
men, but God knows your hearts. What is highly praised among men is detestable
in Godís sight.Ē Luke 16:15]
Copyright 2006 Angie Lewis ~ Heaven Ministries
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