by Angie Lewis
Marriage is like a
tricycle. One of the back wheels is the mental (emotional) area in marriage,
another back wheel is for the physical (sexual), and the front wheel, which is
the leader, is for the spiritual aspects of the marriage. If one of these facets
of marriage is missing, what is going to happen? The marriage is going to be
unbalanced and topple over.
Did you know that your
feelings could affect your sexual appetite? For instance, if youíre feeling
bitter, resentful, or guilty towards your spouse, you wonít feel like having
sex with them. Should we deprive our spouse of sex because of how we are
feeling? I donít think so.
It is not right to deny our
spouse the sexual fulfillment that marriage so much needs just because weíre
mad at them or weíre having a bad day. Nothing could be further from the
Feelings of bitterness are
caused by an unforgiving attitude. Please go back and read my articles on how to
forgive properly. Jesus said we are to forgive seventy times sevenÖforgiving
properly means that we donít harbor the pain anymore, and that means we
donít bring up the issue with our spouse again! Period!
Ladies, we are in control
when it comes to the sexual aspects of the marriage. Learn to use that to your
advantage. After sex is the best time to discuss any other issues that are
bothering you. Be nice, and express yourself lovingly and appropriately. Donít
nag and complain.
Many couples donít
discuss their sexual preferences with each other. But this is not the time to be
shy either. Itís very vital to
the sexual health of the marriage that couples express their pleasures in the
bedroom arena. Both need to know and be acquainted with the zones and parts of
the body, which are capable of producing pleasurable sensations.
Below are a few guidelines
to take note of for a great sensual and passionate marriage, even after ten, and
twenty years of marriage!
spouse the freedom to be who they are. Be understanding and considerate of
their feelings at all times, not just in the bedroom.
any sexual issues and problems that have developed in the marriage. Let go
of your sexual inhibitions and express your pleasures in the lovemaking
arena. Ladies, men like to give pleasure to their wives, so now is your
chance to speak up and tell him what you like.
God everyday that you are married to a person who is willing to discuss and
express these issues with you.
be loving and available. Sometimes we women just arenít in the mood. But
it doesnít matter; give yourself to your husband anyway, unless you are
sick or going through menstruation.
an appealing bedroom that you both like. Redecorate it with tasteful decor
that you both have picked out.
yourself attractive and pleasing to each other. Buy a new skimpy nightgown,
and men buy some bikini briefs. If you already wear that kind of under
clothing, buy some silky cartoon boxers - something different that you
wouldnít normally wear.
romantic and loving. Light some aromatic candles for a sensual and romantic
This is for the ladies
reading this. I have learned through experience that men NEED to have sex. Some
men like it everyday, others every other day, while others maybe two times a
week. Be ready when your husband
wants to have sex. Donít reject
your husband for just any reason; make him feel loved and good about himself.
Men love this kind of sensual pampering.
When we reject our husband,
that is when they begin THINKING about looking elsewhere to find fulfillment,
and we donít want that, do we ladies? So often we take our husband for granted
in this area, and donít realize the importance of sexual fulfillment for the
man in our life. Donít give him any reasons to look elsewhere, take care of
This is for the men reading
this. The most important thing you can do for your wife is to not rush into the
lovemaking act in 30 seconds. Come on now, be more considerate. You know it
takes your wife a bit longer than you. Tell her how much you love her, and rub
her all over, wherever she likes it. Be more patient in the bedroom, your time
will come soon enough.
Bottom line, do not deprive
or reject each other! A happy sexual relationship involves right attitudes. It
is Godís will that married couples enjoy sexual relations with each other.
Find out what wheel is missing in your marriage and fix it.
ďThe wifeís body does
not belong to her alone, but also to her husband. In the same way, the
husbandís body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not
deprive each other except by MUTUAL consent and for A TIME, so that you may
devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so Satan will not TEMPT
you because of your lack of self-control. 1
copyright 2006 Angie Lewis ~ Heaven Ministries
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