and passion between couples becomes heightened when they share in fun and
enjoyable things together. Weíre always learning, growing and noticing new
things about the person we married. They change and they grow and as we share
stimulating and interesting times with our spouse so does our perception of them
change in a way we didnít think possible. And this is why we shouldnít let
our marriage become dreary and mundane but always seek out fun and challenging
things to share together.
1. Try to remember what you liked about your
spouse from when you were first married. What did you do to woo your
husband/wife? Do it again! Sometimes, especially if we have been married
for a while we tend to take each other for granted and forget about how much we
love the person we married.
Itís true, we do change as we experience
life and as we get older but were not different people. Hopefully we are
smarter, more experienced, happier, and more fun loving as we age. Did you know
that couples who grow spiritually and mentally together instead of apart have
better marriages? Itís true!
2. Don't feel intimidated to try something
different from your usual routine. Couples can literally get so caught up in
their daily routines that they miss out on the special opportunities to add a
little pack of spunk into their marriage. This is also true in the
lovemaking department. Try different techniques and different positions. There
is no need to be shy with your spouse, more than likely, they too would like to
try something different out of the ordinary.
Try your expertise at bowling,
roller-skating, or ice-skating, see a movie, or walk in the mall. Anything!
Sharing time together doing things you normally wouldnít do brings excitement
and fun back into a mundane relationship while bringing you closer together.
If you like a challenge, or youíre a thrill
seeker, try skydiving, bungie jumping or for the more conscience at heart and a
bit safer, how about a roller coaster ride. But by all means do these thrilling
3. Take the weekend off and go somewhere
romantic. Snow anyone? You don't necessarily need to know how to ski to enjoy
the amenities and beauty of a ski lodge. Lounge in the Jacuzzi, go sledding,
take long walks outdoors, or sit by the fire talking about anything and
everything. But leave work and home life out of the conversation.
Take a trip to a lake in your area and stay
overnight in a cabin. Go fishing, swimming, hiking, backpacking with your
husband and eat by the campfire. Sleep in a tent and roast marshmallows.
4. Take a three-day spiritual/meditation
retreat together. This will do wonders for the body, mind and soul. It will give
you the relaxation you need to refresh your whole outlook on life and rejuvenate
your marriage too.
5. Write down all the things you love about
your husband/wife and share your thoughts with each other. Sometimes we
forget to tell our spouse how much we love them or why we love them, but we all
need to hear those words once in awhile. Itís that bit of reassurance that
brings music to our ears as it reminds us how blessed we really are to have
married the person we did. Letís not forget about all those little things we
love about our husband/wife. Letís tell them today!
6. Make up your own coupon booklet on the
computer and give it to your husband/wife. In the coupon booklet for an example
a coupon might read, "This coupon good for a 1/2 hour back rub."
The next coupon might read, "Coupon good for 20 minute foot massage."
The next coupon might say, ďGood for one night out at your favorite
restaurant. Coupon booklets are
great because we can customize them to our needs and wants too. Happy Romancing!
2006 Angie Lewis ~ Heaven Ministries
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