Healing Begins With Attitude and Beliefs
by Angie Lewis
Sometimes we have to do what is right rather than what
feels good. If we only do what feels good and what we want, we’re not going to
be very popular with others, especially the person we married. This kind of
marriage will be heading straight for divorce court, won't it? Some of the wrong
attitudes we have, and how they can lead us to sinfulness is carried out in our
actions, which can cause problems in our relationships.
Wrong thinking and negative feelings plague many couples
today. But they can change this negative thinking pattern by becoming mentally
and spiritually healthy through God's message of love. I have never yet heard of
anyone becoming healed spiritually, mentally and emotionally that didn’t seek
out God's message. Some things we cannot achieve on our own. People think they
have the will power to stop sin on their own, without the power of God's will
for their lives, but this just isn't so. If it were, why is there so much sin in
We need God! And we need God's Love. Face it, we are
powerless to grasp the concept of God's plan for our lives, or to become all
that we were meant to be without the source of the Master Designer in our lives.
We can say we believe but without actually acting on those beliefs it means
Through our own efforts and willingness to seek out what's
right for our marriage, we will find that it is a much better way to live, and
also where we will find peace and happiness. The greatest part about it is we
feel better about who we are as people by choosing what is right, and when all
is said and done, we end up feeling good when we do choose what is right rather
than what feels good.
So what is right? What's right is most likely what we don't
want to do, but yet we do it anyway because our conscience steers us in that
direction. What is right may not feel good to the newbie who is fresh in the
Lord, but eventually doing what is right becomes a habit of nature, and this is
how you know that you have won over the destructive and negative imbalances in
Does this mean you will never have a negative day, or use
destructive emotions? No way! It only means that now you know how to apply the
resources available that before were hidden. Meaning, if we keep God's word
hidden, it remains out of our mind. Out of sight out of mind.
What is not in our heart, we do not apply into our life's circumstances
Many couples carry around wrong attitudes about each other
in marriage and they don't even know it. Negative emotions, drunkenness,
addictions, sexual sins, immoral behavior, self-righteousness, and selfishness
all stem from a destructive attitude. None of these things are right and all of
them carry the feel good attitude about them. The thing is, we have choices. We
can continue abusing these destructive things in our marriage and life or we can
choose to do what is right.
Destructive attitudes breed destructive actions. Our
attitude becomes destructive when we don't allow Gods goodness to permeate our
heart and mind. Instead we have made it a habit to live in the damaging
influence of our negative emotions. I encourage you, if you have not yet done
so, to turn your negative attitude into a positive one through God's message of
love. Once you grasp at the concept of God's love for you that is when your mind
begins to heal itself and your negative attitude transforms into a loving,
positive one. This is what heals marriage. You must heal yourself first, before
marriage can be restored.
Without the Spirit of Christ's magnificent plan in our life
we seem to wallow in the negativity in life, and bury the positive with the word
of God. I know this first hand, because I have lived in the destruction of my
negative and rebellious attitude, and it is not good. It was only when I
accepted God (Love) for my life that I was able to forgive myself and start
living my life in a productive way rather than in a destructive way.
If we remain cloudy in our minds, living within our
destructive emotions, we do not even know the beauty of anything else. We
divorce, remarry, divorce, remarry, become addicted, hate ourselves, hate
others, become sexually promiscuous, and live our life in all the (false) splendor of
immorality because of never knowing the beauty of another way of living. What
kind of a life is that?
God is love! Love is everything wonderful and beautiful. It
is that straightforward. The difficult task for most people is once they have
that love, they don't know how to maintain it.
God's word needs maintenance. You have to water and feed it daily. You
have to weed it several times a day, and once a week you need to prune the dead
branches. You have to act on your
Guess what? Most people don't do the maintenance, and they
are unable to preserve God's love and direction for them, especially under
trials and tribulations. It gets snatched away from them because it is weighed
down by destructive attitude and negative emotions.
Through the reading of God's message and living the good
life that was meant for you to live by, the spiritual mind overcomes destructive
attitudes to such a degree, that righteousness finds itself playing tug of war
with destruction and eventually destruction finds itself in the mud.
I encourage you to seek the light and the truth of God for
your life, and pay attention to His message of love. Water that love and
self-healing will begin to take place and God's Love will shine through in the
person you are. You will have grown into a beautiful and loving person filled
with patience, hope, acceptance, and understanding for the person you married,
and for all others in your life.
Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the
faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those
who love him and keep his commands. Deuteronomy
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