Alcoholism Controls Your Life?
by Angie Lewis
It happens without warning.
It creeps into your life and all of a sudden, you’re hooked.
At first you’re the life of the party, and later you’re the drunk of
the party. When you’re young, twenties and thirties, your body can handle all
the booze, no problem. But mentally it impairs the way you view and feel the
world around you.
Most of the time,
alcoholics don’t know that alcohol has taken hold of their life. This is
called the denial stage. Alcoholics feel if they can get up and go to work
everyday, even though secretly they have an excruciating headache, they don’t
have a problem.
But what keeps the
alcoholic going throughout the workday is in knowing that after work, they’ll
have those highballs or beers, which will in fact; make them feel like their old
The problem is, that’s
not our old self, but our new old self on alcohol. You see, alcohol changes the
person we are inside, not only does alcohol, with time, rot our insides, but it
rots what comes from within us. What we do, how we treat others, and our
The potential to be a whole
person has been put on hold because of alcohol. The booze stunts the mental capacities and impairs the
ability to see the world clearly enough to get passed our weakness and mistakes.
Alcohol is not only
physically addicting, but mentally addicting as well. An alcoholic might believe they feel and look better while
drinking; or they might THINK they can still drive a car; they don’t realize
their reflexes have slowed down; or they think they are better communicators
after a few martinis. But nothing is further from the truth.
Alcoholics don’t know
God. Ah yes, they say those things that your ears want to hear. They even go to
church every Saturday and Sunday, but what are their actions telling you. What
fruits do you see shine bright in the alcoholic?
Spiritually speaking the
alcoholic has allowed other sources to be His God, namely, Mr. Jim Beam. Until
Mr. Beam gets out of the picture, he will literally master the alcoholic and his
This is how alcohol takes
control of the alcoholic’s life!
Their thinking is literally
impaired! The alcoholics don’t really have a mind of their own. Alcohol speaks
for them. Many decisions an alcoholic makes are based on or around drinking.
Most alcoholics think they
are independent minded, but they are far from being independent thinkers.
Unbeknownst to the alcoholic who is in denial is in how dependent minded they
really are. Always concerned about when and where they are going to get their
Alcoholics will make up
acceptable reasons WHY they can drink. It’s a fact of life that seventy five
percent of their waking minds are spent on thinking about drinking or drinking
Alcoholics have a hard time
growing up, even when they are adults. Their reasoning is not sound, but
foolishness to the ears. Because they are locked in their own little world of
alcohol, they never mature into the potential of who they can become because
they are being drowned with alcoholic lies everyday.
What can the alcoholic do?
What can the enabler do?
It would be stupid for me
to sit here and tell you to quit drinking; easier said than done right? Yep, if
you’re an alcoholic, I know what you’re going through. What I can do though,
is tell you what I did. If what I did sounds acceptable to you than give it a
First of all the enabler
needs to get help by going to Alanon. Your getting help for your self will be
helping the alcoholic in more ways than you’ll ever know, believe me.
In Alanon you will learn to not let the escapades of the alcoholic bother
you. You will also learn to NOT rescue the alcoholic anymore! This aspect is so
For the alcoholic, you need
to read the New Testament everyday, even if you think it is boring and you don’t
want to read it, read it anyway. This is what I did. I got myself a pen and
marked verses that sounded good even though I didn’t actually understand it
much. I dog-eared pages and my bible looked like something you would find on
skid row. Thankfully that is not where I got my bible.
I really wanted to know
more about God, and I would ask myself daily, “Who is God? What can God do for
me?” I prayed a lot, I cried a lot, and I drink a lot.
I desperately wanted God to
help me, but I didn’t believe it. I was in denial that God could really help
me. Many things go through your head when you are trying to discover truth and
spirituality in your life when you are still drinking.
But one day several months
later, still reading the bible and doing my own bible study and research, I
decided how totally and completely disgusted I was with my self and my drinking,
and I incessantly prayed for help from God.
faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word
of Jesus Christ.” Romans 10:17
I asked God to take away
the burden of Alcoholism from me and to take away the craving for alcohol as
well. I told God that I finally trusted and believed in His power in my life,
and to help me!
That was thirteen years
ago, and I never had another drink, with the exception of a sip of punch at a
wedding that was spiked and I didn’t know it. I tasted it, and still, didn’t
want it or like it, I threw it out!
God will do what you ask of
Him if you trust and believe in Him. He will take the heavy-laden burdens from
your heart and mind; all you got to do is BELIEVE!
I didn’t really know that
much about “who God was” when I prayed for help on that day, thirteen years
ago, but I didn’t need to know the schematics of how God worked.
I needed to believe that
God could and would take away my addiction for good. I needed to have faith
enough to accept that for my life!
What God needed from me,
was the knowing in my heart that I DID trust and believe in Him!
Through my prayer, God read my heart and saved me.
In essence, it was my faith
in God that saved me, nothing else.
How do you gain faith?
You gain faith by reading
about the things God has done in the lives of others. By understanding how much
God loves you and knowing He wants you to be all that He set out for you to be.
Basically, we need to study
the Bible daily, and we should never stop praying for what God wants for us in
our lives. Prayers aren't always going to get answered the way we would like,
but let God take care of that part for you.
Don't stop praying silently
or reading the bible, God hears your pleas, and listens to your heart.
Some of you probably wonder
what all this faith stuff is about since your prayers do not get met. But God
does not work like this. His plan for us is not our plan for us.
And so understand, it is
only when we already have faith in Him is when we stop praying selfishly, and
ask God what He wants.
Two words can best describe
faith, sure and certain. Having faith has two parts. The first part believes in
God is who He says He is!
The second part believes in
His promise for us. He WILL do what He says!
When we believe that God
will fulfill His promise for us without even seeing those promises materialize
yet, we surely have true faith.
faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. This
is what the ancients were commended for. By faith we understand that the
universe was formed at God's command, so that what is seen was not made out of
what was visible.” Hebrews 11:1-3