Second Opinion About Divorce
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Are you having second thoughts about that divorce? What do you think, is it easier to divorce and call it quits or work on restoring marriage? Many couples believe divorce is the easier way out, but is it? Do you think that part of the reason we end up divorcing is because of an attitude problem. How is your attitude? What we think and how we feel gives us justification for many of our actions, but that does not make those actions right.
Do you think a selfish lifestyle or way of thinking is going to help the love process with your spouse? Is there any one thing that you can do today to change the way you might feel about your spouse? If your attitude is wrapped up in resentment or other hateful feelings, maybe all you got to do, is adjust the knob a little bit, and you might find yourself feeling more agreeable by every passing day.
Have you ever asked yourself “who am I”? Or what your purpose in marriage might be? Who are you? Coming to terms with the why, what, and who of who you are can actually give you a reason to think and believe differently than how you are now. So why would you even need to think or believe differently? I cannot answer that question for you, but what I can do is steer you in the right direction by giving you some spiritual insight.
If divorce seems like the right thing to do rather than work on staying married, where are you getting your answers? Who are you talking with? Who is influencing your decision? Have you prayed about it? Have you asked Christ what He thinks you should do? In other words, are you getting your answers from only one source, or are you actually getting a second opinion?
If a doctor said you had cancer and needs to operate within one week, would you take his word for it, or get a second opinion? You would most likely get a second opinion, wouldn’t you? So why are people of God so quick to make a decision that does not even come from God himself? Who are you?
Accepting the truth of who you are and living the purpose meant for your life will lead you away from self and the selfish way of viewing life, and into God's light where the thoughts of selfish living cannot survive without it tugging at your heart, mind and soul. That tugging is your answer! You have already known the answer all along, but when it tugs that is God talking to you and actually giving you the answer himself! Why fight it? You shouldn’t fight it.
Give in to the truth and watch yourself become transformed just by doing the will of God. When you feel the tugging, go with it and continue following the lighted way because God knows what is best for you. The answers are already within you because you have been given the Spirit of Christ. I think some of us are too afraid to let go and let God. But then everything that Christ has done for us would be in vain, wouldn’t it?
If we are afraid of handing our life over to God then how on earth can we ever surrender ourselves to the person we married? Divorce looks and feels like the right thing to do because we didn’t ask God. If you’re not sure about a situation, always get a second opinion; I don’t think you will regret it.
And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever – the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you. (John 14:16-17 NIV)
Let Go and Let God!