Show The Woman You Married
That You Love Her
Copyright 2006 Heaven Ministries
What have you done lately to show your wife how much you love her?
Did you take her out to dinner? Maybe you bought her some flowers or
chocolates? A man likes to do these things for a woman because itís
easy and fast. But is your wife really appreciating the flowers and
chocolates? In this article I have mentioned a few other useful loving
gestures you can do to show your wife your love for her.
1. Consider with greatness the woman you married.
A woman needs her man to consider her feelings. I know sometimes this
is challenging for you to do, especially if you disagree with something
she needs your support on. There is a correct way to do this without
being offensive and hurting her feelings.
First of all be understanding of your wifeís feelings and then
collaborate her on her thoughts and ideas even if they differ from
yours. In essence, when you listen to your wifeís feelings, without
criticizing her, you have essentially given her the validation she
needs. We all need validation, even you. It makes us feel useful and
By trying to be more understanding, essentially you will be
respecting the woman you married. Tell her how much you like her
decorating style, or how she manages the home, or the way she dresses,
or how smart she is. Find the things about your wife you really like, be
honest and tell her the great things you love about her instead of
keeping those feelings inside. Consider with greatness the woman you
married and have been blessed with.
Validation is a form of acceptance that you can give your wife. By
accepting her for the woman she is it will make her feel safe and secure
being your wife. A woman who feels safe and loved will ultimately give
more of her self to her man.
Ironically, a husband can validate his wifeís feelings better when
he takes the role of spiritual leader in the home. A man who feels
secure in his position is more likely to make his wife feel good about
who she is in the marriage. They work better together as a team,
accomplishing more for themselves and the marriage.
2. Be more Affectionate with your wife
Hold your wifeís hand while watching TV, taking a walk, or driving
in the car. Massage her back or feet without asking for anything in
return. Your wife likes to be touched and fussed over occasionally, know
when that time is by being attune to your wifeís feelings, and paying
special attention to your wife on those days.
2. Surprise your wife with something totally unexpected
Instead of golfing with your buddies on Saturday, take your wife to a
romantic outside lunch if it is summer or fireplace lunch in the winter.
Then take her to a romantic comedy matinee movie. If you have the money
to spend, book a hotel room for the night with a Jacuzzi and enjoy the
night together! Your wife will love all this.
Make her a homemade all-occasion card on the computer telling her how
important she is to you in your life. Make her feel special. Get
creative, draw her a picture, and spend time on creating this card, she
will love it that you took the time to make her a card rather than
simply buying one from the store. It is the simple things in life that
mean the most.
4. Give your wife the whole day off from cooking, children, and house
This isnít too hard. On your day off do everything for her. Do all
the things she does for you. If you donít know how to cook, order
pizza or Chinese food. Let your wife spend the day with her friends
shopping or going to lunch, etc. When she comes home give her a back
rub, take her shoes off, draw her a hot bubble bath and let her take a
long bath. When she comes out from her bath, light the candles, caress
her some more and just be there for her all the rest of the evening. Be
her loving, romantic and protecting man so she can be the woman God
created her to be for you.
5. Appreciate all that your wife does
All of the above will show your wife that you love her and appreciate
her for everything that she does. Being understanding of your wifeís
feelings and needs on a consistent basis will improve the quality of
your marriage a great deal. By taking the respective roles that God has
designed for each gender will greatly enhance the happiness of your
marriage. Be the man of the house so she can be the lady of the house.
Questions for Husbands
1. Do you consider your wife with greatness for who she is?
2. do you validate your wife even though you may disagree? (it is ok
to disagree, but first let your wife have her opinion, and then lovingly
state your opinion - you can do this without invalidating her feelings,
thoughts, and ideas.)
3. Write down four ways in which you can be more affectionate with
your wife? And then act them out for two weeks. Watch your
wife think she married a new man. Did she marry a new man?
Four ways that I can be more affectionate with my wife.
4. Name four ways you can be more appreciative of all that your wife
does. And then act that appreciation out for two more weeks!
Couples can really do more for their spouses by showing their love in
so many ways through their actions. It is really not about spending a
bunch of money but more about our actions towards them. We can learn to
be more loving through our actions.