Save Your Marriage By Starting With a Clean Slate
2010 Heaven Ministries
If you really want to save your marriage, you must
start with a clean slate. That means to get rid of the worldly attitudes
and practices that have polluted your marriage and follow God’s plan
for your marriage instead. We’re so used to treating our marriage like
everyone else does, or the way we were taught, or from what we think is
the right way to handle it, but look where all that has gotten many of
our marriages of today.
We have to change our attitude. Why is it so
difficult for people to recognize the need for God’s design in their
marriage? I think it is because of lack of faith. If we had more faith
in the power of Christ working in our lives we would be applying
Christ’s principles into our marriage. We have to change the way our
heart thinks. We do this by asking God into our lives and letting His
ways be our guide.
Reality dictates that a person can never truly
change themselves for their spouse and so going to marriage gurus for
advice usually doesn’t work. They tell us what we need to do to change
something about ourselves for our spouse. But it won’t work! We have
to go to God! For example: If a spouse is acting immorally do you think
they can change themselves to not behave in that way just because their
spouse has asked them to? I don’t think it will work in the long run.
If it doesn’t come from the heart of the doer than how can they
But when we know and study God’s Word and change
our own patterns and negative attitudes for ourselves we help pull the
marriage back together. It’s not that we don’t want to be good
spouses—its just that because as imperfect as we are, we still need
God in our lives to help us lead a Godly life. He is our Source for
everything! Christian living is not about going to church once a week it
is a lifestyle, and we have to change our ungodly ways because we love
God with all of our heart, mind, and soul.
God gives us the power through the Holy Spirit of
Jesus Christ to lead our lives with wisdom and righteousness. But if we
are too proud to go to God with our attitudes and ungodly ways, we’ll
never have a clean slate. We’ll never learn how to perceive how
marriage is supposed to be based on the One who created it, because
we’re so busy creating our marriage the way we think it ought to
be!! In other words, we’re managing our marriage, which was
created and established by God without God! Can that be possible?
Marriage absolutely needs a firm foundation for
support but if the foundation is rocky with wayward patterns, views, and
attitudes it will eventually come tumbling down. For instance if a wife
or a husband make their career more important than each other, the
marriage will obviously be supported on the “Me, Me, Me attitude”.
They don’t realize that making a career more important—working
longer hours for more money is not the way to having a happy marriage.
It is the opposite way to be happy in marriage.
We have to keep our focus on Jesus and then make
changes in ourselves and for the marriage—otherwise it won’t work
and your marriage will end up with the rest of the divorce statistics.
You can start with a clean slate by giving up old behaviors and
patterns. Give your old attitude to God. Let Him bury it for you. Then
ask Jesus Christ into your marriage and make Him and His principles the
most important part of your life.
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be
dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will
uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10