Influence Your Wife Spiritually
Notice I did not say, "How to control your wife spiritually". Or "How to coerce your wife to submit to your headship". Or, "How to manipulate your wife to submit."
husband should be patient and understanding with his wife when it comes
to expecting her to submit to his spiritual direction. Be gentle and
kind with her always. Never be controlling and bossy with her because
this is not what loving your wife properly is all about. Love her with
your gentle spirit and she will love you back with a gentle spirit.
A Godly man is
going to put God first in his life and then he will be blessed with his
position of spiritual influence in his home. A man cannot lead his
castle properly if he has not allowed God to first influence his own
life, so then it goes without saying that any wife would have a
difficult time submitting to her husband who hasnít surrender his own
life over to God first.
So remember this as you lovingly influence your wife to submit to your
So remember this as you lovingly influence your wife to submit to your spiritual counsel.
If you want to
influence your wife spiritually, donít tell her what to do, how to
believe, or what to say? Donít tell her she is not a good wife or that
she is not a Christian for not submitting to you. If you want to
influence your wife, look at your own life and do what is morally right
and acceptable so she will want to be by your side in all things. Let
her want to be your right arm; let it be her decision, as it should be.
Otherwise it wouldnít be true submission, would it?
Your uprightness is what will influence your wife spiritually.
What exactly is
humbleness? Be real. Donít try and be something youíre not. Be the
natural man that God created you to be, that would include your sins and
weaknesses. Accept your faults. Say you are sorry when you have hurt
others, and strive to do better. Walk your walk in life to the best of
Godís will as you possibly can. Donít say you donít sin, that
wouldnít be true.
spiritually and mentally. Be purposeful and alive in your position as
the spiritual counselor in the home, but do not use your position to
take advantage of your family with. Be true to yourself. You influence
your wife by being who you are. She will accept you with your faults
more than if you say you donít have any faults.
Show your wife
what submission is. You cannot do that by being argumentative and
contrary. Give in for the sake of love. We cannot change others, we can
only change and work on ourselves in the hopes that through our example
others will turn their lives around and seek love. Mutual
submission should always be a humble cooperation and consideration for
delights in perverting what submission and spiritual headship really
are. This is direct rebelliousness to God, which takes society even
further away spiritually from the truth as they become more blind and
close minded to Gods true intentions for marriage.
divisions of authority in order for the world to function efficiently.
Marriage is not any different; there must be divisions of authority in
marriage so it too, can function efficiently. God created men and women
with unique and complimentary characteristics that work ideally together
when husband and wife stick to their own unique abilities and
characteristics. God did not make one sex better than the other.
Couples need to
stop making the issues of authority and submission a barrier to destroy
the sanctity of marriage; instead they should use their God given
talents and unique abilities to strengthen each other and to glorify God
Questions for Husbands
1. How would a godly man show his wife what submission is?
2. What are the responsibilities of spiritual headship?
1. Loving God with applying His principles into your household - Explain, how will you do that?
2. Leading your wife and children in the ways of the Lord - Explain, how will you do that?
3. Making sure your family is protected from outside negative influences - Explain, how you will do that?
4. Disciplining and guiding your children in the ways of the Lord - Explain, how you will do that