does not submit to his wife in the same implication that we know what
the word means. Instead the husband is commanded, ďto loveĒ his
wife. If a husband does not love his wife in the proper ways, according
to Godís principles, then the wife will be reluctant to submit her
will to her husband. This sets off much resentment, anger, and confusion
for couples in marriage.
A husband loves his wife, he does not submit
to her as being under her headship. That is not how God created the
sexes. A husband submits to Christís protection and instruction
because Christ is the head over the man, hence the man is now able to
love his wife properly. In marriage the wife submits to her husbandís
protection and loving guidance for her because her husband is the head
over her, hence the marriage is complete and whole in Christ, not of the
A wife should never demean, boss or belittle her
husband because this can harm his manhood in the long run and I believe
is part of the reason for so much sexual promiscuity from husbands.
Where is the respect? Did you know that God commands a wife to respect
her husband and he commands that a husband love his wife? So what
do you think is going to happen if the wife constantly disrespects her
husbands manhood through her dominate and bossy behavior? Ephesians
5:25 and Ephesians 5:33
God gave us the principles we need to have
wonderful, fulfilled marriages! Now all we have to do is put the
principles to work in our lives! Ironically, all relationships need to
have submission in place because submission is all about respect. You
donít have to love your employer to respect him or her. You donít
even have to agree with them to submit to their authority, but you do it
anyway, or else you would get fired or demoted for insubordination. It
is odd how we can submit our will to our employers whom we donít love,
but disrespect the man we are married to, whom we say we do love? How
much sense does that make?
In any relationship where the levels of authority
are not heeded that relationship becomes a dictatorship by either end
and that is not the way God intended for His people to live. We are to
serve others in Christ, not see what we can get from others. Where there
is conflict it is because of the headship and submission being confused.
(Philippians 2:4) In fact in a marriage where there is a lot of head
butting it is because one or both are not submitting to their God-given
role and position.
Mutual submission means peace and harmony among
Godís people. But a husband submits by loving his wife, while the wife
submits by submitting to her husbands love for her. All relationships
need to have submission present such as a child to a parent and parent
to child friend-to-friend, coworkers to employers and employers to their
employees. This is how healthy relationships have peace and harmony and
honor God in their marriage and relationships.
All healthy marriages are where the husband is the
head of the wife and she is his helpmeet, anything else is a marriage
based upon worldly views, ideas, values and morals.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also
loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might present it to
himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such
thing; but that it should be holy without blemish. (Ephesians 5:25-27)
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husband, as
unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ
is the head of the church: and he is the Savior of the body. (Ephesians
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