A Christian Wife Should Love Her Christian Husband
There are many ways that a wife can show her
husband her love for him. We have to change the “me” outlook to the
“us” outlook. Now a
day’s there is too much separateness between couples. She does her
thing and he does his thing, and they barely do anything together!
All of this separateness is truly dangerous for couples,
We have to change our attitude and perspective by
making it a point to include our husbands in our lives, no matter what
it is we are doing. If God created marriage as “one flesh” of mind,
body, and soul than when we live separate lives from our husbands we are
essentially rebelling against our God-given role for marriage. If we are
rebelling against God’s design then we will have marital problems.
A healthy marriage is an intimate relationship.
Intimacy has to be created with our husbands through our emotional,
physical and spiritual affections. There is too much thinking that “we
don’t love our husbands anymore” attitude! Too many married couples
do everything apart from one another, which can cause emotional
detachment and separation. It is at these times, when neither spouse is
intimately involved emotionally with the other that infidelities
materialize in the marriage.
We often tell couples, especially women to not
reject their husbands sexually but just as important to marriage is to
not contradict our husbands emotionally and spiritually. When we act as
if we don’t care about what our husbands have to say or when we
discount their loving lead over us, or when we contradict them, then we
are essentially saying that what they say and do is somehow wrong or
does not meet up to our standards. Emotionally, this is very damaging to
the intimacy aspect of the marriage. Many wives do this to themselves by
allowing the worlds views to seep into their hearts and minds.
When we refuse our husbands management and
protection we’re saying that what he has to say isn’t important.
When a wife is too independent to mind the things of her husband, or to
consider his thoughts, ideas, and decisions in the marriage then he is
most certainly going to feel rejected, discounted and demeaned by his
wife. Is that what you want? A husband who feels inadequate in his
abilities as the man of the marriage? In a Godly marriage, the wife is
to be her husbands help meet not his obstacle meet. And
then these very same women wonder why their husbands are meeting up with
women on social networking sites and texting and flirting. Duh!
God created the man to be the
decision-maker and management overseer of the home and family, but when
the wife usurps her husband’s role, he may be tempted to find
emotional attachment where he thinks the grass seems greener.
It’s a natural response to an unhealthy home environment. Emotional
adultery runs rampant in marriage today. And the advent of social
networking websites is just another tool where dejected and demeaned
husbands can find emotional and possibly sexual attachments.
Of course there is no justification for committing
infidelities in marriage but when we are rejected and demeaned by our
spouse it can sure make that grass across the fence look greener than
what we got. It is at these times when we need to sincerely pray for our
spouse to come into the light and truth. And we need to pray for
ourselves that we do not break down and do anything against the sanctity
of the marriage. God listens!
The Christian culture of today is very vain and
self-righteous in its thinking. Wives are not encouraged by society to
love their husbands or nurture their marriage. In fact they are
encouraged to treat their man with contempt. Is that not selfish and
self-righteous? Today most
wives are encouraged by society to be independent, apart from their
husbands and only care about themselves. And it is this, which is
killing marriage and causing the adultery pandemic we are experiencing
today in Christian marriage.
Why do you think God made Eve with Adam’s rib? He
didn’t have to use Adam’s rib, but He did. This is to show that
woman comes from man and once she is married he is her covering and
protector. A wife becomes “one” with her husband and she is to be beside
him in her help meet role. It is an unselfish, love and respect kind of
role. Woman was not made out of man’s feet to be below him, nor was
she made from his head, to be above him, but she was made from his rib,
to be beside him.
Think of your husband above yourself and stop
looking to society to tell you what to think and what to do in your
marriage. Look to Jesus Christ instead and let Him be your example. This
is how a Christian wife should love her Christian husband.
How Should A Husband Love His Wife And A Wife Her
ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the
wife as unto the weaker vessel,
and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be
not hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7)