Five Ways To A Great Marriage
Copyright 2007 © Heaven
I have selected Communication, Compassion, Compromise, Commitment, and
Christ as five foundations of a great marriage. I believe they all work
together to bring harmony and love for couples in marriage.
Communication is a must in all marriages. How well we converse with one
another shows in our skills as a communicator. To really communicate we
must also listen well, and understand what the other person is trying to
say. Couples without the use of adequate communication will be missing
out on so much of each other. Proper ways to communicate feelings
enhance the love between couples and enables the marriage to grow. The
marriage grows when we listen and are considerate. But it will wither
away if we do not listen and only care about what we want.
Often times during an argument weíll show compassion by the way we
communicate our words. This is why compassion and communication work so
well together. Compassion needs proper communication and proper
communication needs compassion. Do you respond with compassion to the
needs of your spouse in an argument? This is the best time to let your
spouse know you are compassionate and care about the way they feel.
Compromise works with compassion because to compromise means to have
compassion. And to give up a pleasure of our own for the sake of
anotherís happiness is compassion. Compromising is a must in marriage
and works to build character in one another as well as makes for
exceptional team players who are willing to work together, rather than
each spouse going their separate ways. Marriage is a oneness that
thrives best on compromising with each other and building accord through
Commitment works with communication, compassion, and compromise because
if we were not committed to the marriage, we would not be able to
communicate properly, we would fuss and fight instead. Without
commitment there would not be such a thing as compassion or compromise
because both of these are love and take loving actions to accomplish.
Only a committed person to marriage would want to compromise something
they want for the sake of their spouse. Commitment is a great character
trait to have. We can learn to be committed to our marriage when we see
and understand the commitment that Jesus Christ has made for the sake of
Jesus Christ is communication, compassion, compromise, and commitment.
It is through Him that we receive these loving traits for bringing back
into our marriage. This is how we base our life on Christ by utilizing
the gifts we have been given. They all work together to bring harmony
and love into marriage.
For we are Godís fellow workers; you are Godís field, Godís
building. By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as an
expert builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should
be careful how he builds. For no one can lay any foundation other than
the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ. (1 Corinthians 3: 9-11 NIV)
Questions for Couples
(print 2 of these exercises out and have spouse do one to)
1. Out of the five ways to a great marriage which ones do
you apply most into your marriage?
2. Which ones do you apply the least in your marriage?
3. Do you think those that you do not apply into your
marriage has something to do with the well-being of your marriage?
4. On a scale from one to ten how committed are you to
5. What can you and your spouse do together that will help
to bring on more commitment into the marriage.
1. Bring Christ's principles into the marriage - Explain
how you can do this
2. Study and read the bible together every day! - Explain
how you will do this
3. Having more intimate and quality time together -
Explain how you will do this
4. Pray together every day! - explain how you will do
5. What else can you do together that will help in the commitment
department? ______________________. Explain how you will do this.
Now... Show your spouse your answers and share together - Communicate
and express yourselves freely and lovingly.