Does Your Marriage Belong To God?
Copyright 2009 Heaven Ministries ~ Angie Lewis

What do you think your purpose is for your marriage? Did you know that when you married your spouse God united you together in one flesh? That means your spouse is a part of you and you are a part of them. How do you think your position in the marriage can enhance your spouse’s position? Did you know that when we disregard our spouse’s position in the marriage, essentially we’re telling them they are not worth caring for? We are telling ourselves that our marriage doesn’t mean anything to us.

The attitude of society toward respecting the God-given positions of husband and wife in marriage has caused all kinds of problems within the marriage and family unit. The blatant disrespect for the husband of being the protector, overseer, and main financial provider for the family has been perverted. The blatant disrespect for the wife being the helpmate and support to her husband and his position has become perverted in society.

How Would A Wife Be Supporting Herself More Than Her Husband?

When her career is more important to her than her husband/family
When she becomes rebellious with her girlfriends towards God
When she runs to family or friends with her marriage problems instead of to God
When she disrespects, belittles, and taunts her husbands feelings out of resentment
When she rejects her husband’s feelings and his position
When she is so confused that she thinks submission makes her a doormat
When she puts God on the bottom of her priority list or not on the list at all

How Would A Husband Be Supporting Himself More Than His Wife?

When he doesn’t place his wife above himself
When he places demands on his wife and orders her to obey him
When he spends more time with his buddies on his free time
When he does not encourage his wife in her God-given responsibilities
When he disrespects and devalues his wife because of resentment
When he becomes rebellious towards God
When he treats his wife like a doormat
When he puts God on the bottom of his priority list or not on the list at all

God knew the world would pervert marriage in this way. This is precisely why God kept marriage separate from the world and created it for himself—as a symbol of Christ and His love For His Church, His people—you and me. Your marriage belongs to God and when we pervert it we are essentially rebelling against God’s architecture for marriage.

Couples are striving to be all they can be through the selfishness of themselves. Where is God in your marriage? Are you working for God or for yourself? As long as couples keep their marriage separate from God they will continue to pervert their marriage through the rebellious attitudes that stem from society. Now of course I am not saying that all couples in marriage do this, but those who do not have God at the forefront of their marriage are leading their lives this way, and they don’t even know it! 

Husbands should provide encouragement to their wives. The kind of encouragement I am talking about is in the position given to them by God. Husbands ought to help their wives become all they can be through the roles given to them by God that were specifically designed for marriage. If housewives are being discouraged in society from being submissive and loving wives, then where does that leave the husband? How can he fulfill his own position as head of the household in the proper manner if his wife is discouraging him from being the man of his household!

Wives should provide encouragement to their husbands.  Wives ought to help their husbands to be the man of the home and marriage by respecting their God-given position designed by God. That is what being a “helpmeet” is. If husbands are being discouraged in society from being the man of his home, then where does that leave the wife? How can she fulfill her own position as helpmate to her husband in the proper ways if society is encouraging her to be all that she can be for herself?

Do you see how God’s Word for marriage has evolved into something perverted? Society is to blame for this. Most churches don’t teach God’s way for marriage anymore. Is this why many church-going Christians are following in the footsteps of society rather than in the footsteps of God? Christians are to be the example of God. Are we being Godly examples when we rebel against God’s principles for marriage?

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. (Matthew 19:4-6)