Are Christians Following Jesus Christ For Their Marriage?
Copyright 2010 Heaven Ministries ~ Marriage Healing Ministry


Many young single Christian men of today are growing up not knowing what it means to be the head of his home, even though this is what God intends for him. How can a man provide for and care for his family when his wife rebels against this God-given role for him? “For the husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” Ephesians 5:22-23

Many young single Christian women believe that submitting to their husband’s headship means to be a doormat. Why have the churches not taught the true purpose behind a wife’s submission? Did you know that marriage is the living symbol of the relationship between Christ and the church? When Christian men and women do not adhere to their God-given roles they are rebelling against God’s plan for them.

The churches do not talk about the importance of marital roles because they do not want to rile up any of the wives that go to that church. But if the church is not teaching what Christ taught then isn’t our Christianity going to be in ineffective? To be a Christ Ones means to follow Jesus and emulate his teachings in our lives, right? Then what’s going on?  

Sadly, many Christian men of today are becoming conditioned into believing lies and what they see in Christian culture as truth. But the only truth is what God says for them. They are not following and trusting in Jesus, but in the world, and this is why many marriages fail. A Christian marriage will not stand up under the pressures of society telling them how their marriage should be. 

A misinformed Christian man is likely to marry a woman who has made her career more important to her than the marriage. Neither of them realize this when it is happening, but a woman working while trying to raise children “in the Lord” and trying to keep an organized and managed home life, and keeping husband happy will cause much chaos within the marriage.

Resentments will flare? Arguments will fester. Bonds will break. And intimacy will become a thing of the past. Couples begin going their own way, just because they are NOT LIVING their marriage for God. They are not following Jesus. No one is really happy as they each strive to make more and more money so they can keep up with everyone else around them.

Someone in the marriage is going to do something stupid, possibly immoral to get some sort of fulfillment for his or her hectic and unhappy life. They both need encouragement but neither is encouraged enough to offer any. They will believe they are not in love with their spouse anymore and want a divorce. This all happens because we aren’t following the teachings of Christ for our marriage. We’re so rapt up within ourselves and the world around us, that we are neglecting our marriage!

“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:3)

The bottom line is, a marriage based on a rocky foundation will be rocky! It’s not enough for Christians to just believe in Jesus. They must DO what Jesus teaches! They must deny themselves, take up their cross and follow Jesus. A Christian must bring the principles and teachings of Christ into their marriage by practicing them every single day.

What should a young Christian man thoroughly understand before getting married? “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”. Ephesians 5:25

What should a young Christian woman thoroughly understand before getting married? “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18)

A good Christian marriage starts with a Godly based foundation. Christians are responsible for their own spiritual health. Don’t rely on others to tell you what scripture says, or only what they want to tell you—read the bible for yourself and ask God to give you the answers and guidance you need and He will provide!

For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. (Hebrews 4:12)

  Copyright 2010 Heaven Ministries