Following Jesus Christ For Their Marriage?
Many young single Christian men of today are
growing up not knowing what it means to be the head of his home, even
though this is what God intends for him. How can a man provide for and
care for his family when his wife rebels against this God-given role for
him? “For the husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of
the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.” Ephesians 5:22-23
Many young single Christian women believe that
submitting to their husband’s headship means to be a doormat. Why have
the churches not taught the true purpose behind a wife’s submission?
Did you know that marriage is the living symbol of the relationship
between Christ and the church? When Christian men and women do not
adhere to their God-given roles they are rebelling against God’s plan
The churches do not talk about the importance of
marital roles because they do not want to rile up any of the wives that
go to that church. But if the church is not teaching what Christ taught
then isn’t our Christianity going to be in ineffective? To be a Christ
Ones means to follow Jesus and emulate his teachings in our lives,
right? Then what’s going on?
Sadly, many Christian men of today are becoming
conditioned into believing lies and what they see in Christian culture
as truth. But the only truth is what God says for them. They are not
following and trusting in Jesus, but in the world, and this is why many
marriages fail. A Christian marriage will not stand up under the
pressures of society telling them how their marriage should be.
A misinformed Christian man is likely to marry a
woman who has made her career more important to her than the marriage.
Neither of them realize this when it is happening, but a woman working
while trying to raise children “in the Lord” and trying to keep an
organized and managed home life, and keeping husband happy will cause
much chaos within the marriage.
Resentments will flare? Arguments will fester.
Bonds will break. And intimacy will become a thing of the past. Couples
begin going their own way, just because they are NOT LIVING their
marriage for God. They are not following Jesus. No one is really happy
as they each strive to make more and more money so they can keep up with
everyone else around them.
Someone in the marriage is going to do something
stupid, possibly immoral to get some sort of fulfillment for his or her
hectic and unhappy life. They both need encouragement but neither is
encouraged enough to offer any. They will believe they are not in love
with their spouse anymore and want a divorce. This all happens because
we aren’t following the teachings of Christ for our marriage. We’re
so rapt up within ourselves and the world around us, that we are
neglecting our marriage!
“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to
his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:3)
The bottom line is, a marriage based on a rocky
foundation will be rocky! It’s not enough for Christians to just
believe in Jesus. They must DO what Jesus teaches! They must deny
themselves, take up their cross and follow Jesus. A Christian must bring
the principles and teachings of Christ into their marriage by practicing
them every single day.
What should a young Christian man thoroughly
understand before getting married? “Husbands, love your wives, just as
Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”. Ephesians 5:25
What should a young Christian woman thoroughly
understand before getting married? “Wives, submit to your husbands, as
is fitting in the Lord. (Colossians 3:18)
A good Christian marriage starts with a Godly based
foundation. Christians are responsible for their own spiritual health.
Don’t rely on others to tell you what scripture says, or only what
they want to tell you—read the bible for yourself and ask God to give
you the answers and guidance you need and He will provide!
For the word of God is living and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. (Hebrews 4:12)