It's Not Too Late To Be The Spiritual
Leader in Your Home
Copyright © 2006 Heaven
What happens in a
home when the husband leads the household with the spiritual authority
God gave him? How can a man become the spiritual leader in his home?
What are the responsibilities of a spiritual leader?
might feel that it's too late to be the spiritual leader of the home,
maybe they already got a divorce, or maybe their children have already
rebelled and are going their own way. But in all truth, it is never too
late to begin accepting the roles and responsibilities that were
god-given and god-breathed for you!
Some men may feel
they can't lead the home properly because they don't read the bible
enough, or they think they are too passive and introverted to lead the
household like it should be lead so they have the wife become the
leader, bread winner, and major disciplinary of the children. This is a
bit backwards. Um, I wonder if this has anything to do with the high
rate of divorce and unhappy marriages floating around in this country.
This is not what God had in mind when he established roles of husband
and wife in marriage.
If husbands aren't
doing their jobs, then I guess I understand why the wife feels she needs
to take over. Someone's got to do it, right?
But this is not what God meant for marriage at all! God
recommends that every home be lead by the spiritual influence of the
husband. There are very good reasons for this, and I think you already
know why. So then, what’s the problem, folks?
of a spiritual leader:
God (Christ) with all your heart, mind and soul. You will not be
able to lead your home properly if you do not submit to God's will
God's truth and wisdom into the home.
major decisions for the home, but not before discussing your
decision with your wife, unless for some reason she is unable to
interact with you and the decision needs to be made immediately.
all minor decisions with the wife, and coming to a spiritually based
conclusion, even if the wife has to compromise with her husband.
your undying devotion to your wife, meaning you are willing to die
for her if you have to. Besides God, your wife is the most cherished
and loved person in your life. Love her with the wisdom God has
given you, and she will understand how to submit to your authority.
She really will. It is a natural loving process that any spiritual
minded woman will see.
wife and children from all physical, mental, and emotional danger.
the children in the ways of the Lord, and not in the ways of the
world. Wife can do minor disciplinary if it is what both husband and
wife have agreed upon already. Dad protects his children from
outside negative influences doing whatever it takes to keep children
safe, secure, educated and loved properly.
is the responsibility of the husband to be the major breadwinner in
the home. There are several reasons for this. For one, being the
financial supporter of the home makes the man of the house feel good
about who he is as the leader. It is his job and responsibility as
the man to support his family financially the best he can, if at all
possible. Children really need their mother at home with them.
Children need that bond, stability, nourishment and love from their
For those men who
have never led the home before, you have a haul ahead of you and none of
this goes without spiritual effort from you. The main focus here is to
believe in yourself! Have faith that this is what your true
responsibility as husband and father are. You must try and do the best
you can and continually pray that God give you the wisdom and
instruction for your duties every single day!
spiritual leader needs to place God FIRST in his life, above all others,
even wife and children. The man who submits to God recognizes wisdom for
his life and marriage, and will do whatever it takes to keep it
are the five major objectives of becoming a good spiritual leader.
study: at least 2 times a week.
Don't be intimidated by the words, "bible study".
Just read the bible and you will be studying it. God knows
your heart and He will give you the answers you need.
disciplining, protecting children and wife properly – Values and
morals need to be assessed on everyone in the home. Have family
discussions about new responsibilities, tasks, and roles that they
will partake in.
decision-making – Discernment about functions, friends, relations,
issues in the home. Ask
for the wisdom to discern what is right for your family.
a good example to self, wife, children, and above all God.
all needed changes in the home that will benefit everyone involved.
Be team players working together instead of each family member going
their separate ways.
can a man become the spiritual leader in his home?
organized and focused on your objectives. Know what you're going to
say to the family before you say it.
family all together and explain your intentions, making sure
everyone understands the new structure in the home, whatever you
have decided upon.
a twice a week bible study and counseling with the whole family.
firm to God's word by placing wife, children, marriage, and self
under the foundations of Jesus Christ.
studying, learning, growing, and gaining more and more spiritual
insight for you and your family to grow on. Always stay faithful.
can do this! Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. You have the
potential to feel good about yourself, and have a great family and
marriage. It is up to you and how much effort you are willing to put
into it, that's all. Be all that God wants you to be and you will have
the wisdom you were meant to have.
first you wife may rebel. She is used to having things her way. But
whose error is that? The way things are going between husband and wife
these days is not just the fault of the woman who feels she needs to be
the man in high heels, but the weakness of the man who hasn't yet
recognized his god-given role in life! Love your wife with the wisdom
God has given you and she will submit to your love for her.
Are you the spiritual leader for your household now? Why or why not?
Would you like to be the spiritual leader of your home? Explain
What measures can you take to begin to carry out your God-given
Is your wife keeping you from leading the home in the way you think God
would want? If so, why do you think that is?
What could you do differently to help your wife see Jesus Christ working